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Hi Jennifer, email me if you can I would like to hear from you again. I feel like you do. It is my beautiful mom's b-day this Friday May 10th. With her b-day and Mothers day, I am having a hard time. I have pain everyday it never goes away.
I am feeling terrible with Mother's Day approaching and people don't understand why I am upset! It's like they are allowed to be upset, but I can't..then I have people telling me that I bottle everything up and that I need to be more open with people about my feelings but then turn around and say well it is what it is, there is nothing we can do about that..well I wasn't expecting a change, I just wanted someone to listen..so frustrating!!:/ Keeping you guys in my thoughts and prayers, especially this weekend!
All of this is quite awful, but it is what me must accept, unfortunately. But, I'm not sure I'm at that stage just yet. My mom's older sister, who is now the last of 10 siblings at 88yrs of age, reminded me that everyone has to go through this, i.e., losing parents. And, when you have siblings, someone always gets to be the last one remaining. It completely sucks, nonetheless.
I feel like my mom is slipping further and further away. (Not by my doing)...we have gotten rid of her clothes, cleaned out papers from her house, divided up most of her things, sold some things...I just feel that bit by bit she is slipping away. My sister called to tell me the latest this afternoon at work. I broke down, I had to leave work. I cried driving home. Had a big break down at home. It is just over 4 months since she left us. It just feels so so much longer than that!
I am having such a hard time coping with Mother's Day. It would have also been my parent's 50th anniversary. My mom wanted to have a party to celebrate it so badly. She once asked me if I thought they would make it. I didn't know how to respond. Lately, my dad is declining mentally. This is too much for one person to deal with alone. Now, i get to watch my dad deteriorate. I have no family besides him, why do i bother to go on, I guess for my dog, whom i know needs me, as well as my guinea pig. But, it is getting harder each day.
I'm a mess. My heart goes out to the rest of you who are suffering as well. I'm glad we have each other.
It seems that escaping reminders is virtually impossible. This weekeend is going to be hard for all of us, whether our grief is new or old. My family and I are planning to hide together for the weekend. My brother and his gf are coming down and we are all going to my father's. We're thinking no tv (so no commercials) - just movies!
Unfortunately there are reminders everywhere that our moms are gone aren't there? Just today my husband suggested I put up some updated baby belly photos onto FB for the rest of my family to see and when I went into the baby album to upload photos I noticed that just before she passed my mother had left a comment on the album about "her little sweet pea" (my unborn son). I saw the comment and just broke down crying. I hope some day I can look at that comment and smile because she was so looking forward to becoming a grandmother.....but right now it's just a stab in the heart.
I hope we all find a way to cope with these daily reminders and the ones to do with this coming Sunday.
I'm avoiding the card aisle and flipping quickly past the Mothers Day newspaper ads. It really sucks. This will be my 1st Mothers Day w/out my Mom. Haven't felt like this since I was 8yrs old when Father's Day approached; my Dad had just died and we had to make Father's Day cards in school. what a wonderful activity :-(
I agree with you all on the Mother's Day stuff. I can't bring myself to look at an ad or go down the card aisle without feeling like I will lose it completely. My heart is so heavy as I type this. I'm so sorry for all your losses and I just wish things could be different. I struggle daily like many of you do I'm sure. I relive that day over and over in my head. I see her face and the moments before she passed. It is just an awful nightmare. I know that death is pat of life. But it SUCKS!
I click over on the TV when the ads appear...and I fix the screen on the computer so I don't see them....I can't do the card aisle yet either. I am planning on taking flowers up to Mom on that day....just really tears you up to see all the commercials!
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