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Dia, this is what we are here for. To grieve, to say how we feel, later on to comfort others. No need to apologize. You now belong to the family of this wonderful website with brothers and sisters that really care.
Cynthia, yes I have wondered the same thing. Danny, it is true. Now at a deeper level I feel like an adult after losing both parents. The psychological child side in me that knew Mom was there to listen to, to love us no matter what is gone. Carl Jung defined that in his work. It changes us to know there is no parental love no longer on this earthly plane. But, really at a spiritual level they are there for us, loving us, protecting us.
Yes Cynthia truly is the key word you use. From my grief work including readings etc, they say you become a true adult only when this happens. No idea what it means though.
For me I was not much into my birthday especially for many years so I won't feel it that much except Parent's day and to some extent parent's birthdays. I really miss the perspective, the conversations and assurance that was integrated into my day to day life, even though I did everything myself. All the unconditional support. That's for me the killer. Yes it was a sudden thing and yet, at least there was not any suffering involved at all. Traumatic for me though.
Many here had a slow decline in health of the parent. On the other hand, sudden can be traumatic as it is completely unexpected. It can take a while just to even start grieving.
When you are responsible for your Mom's care, and she finally, inevitably passes, it does feel like failure. I'm sure many of us can identify with that. When a parent has a terminal, or even slowly progressing ongoing condition (alzheimers, parkinsons, etc). we all do everything we can. Sometimes for years. And we are always trying to earn more "borrowed time". But at some point it runs out and then the grief begins. It will ease over time Dia, but yes, your feelings are completely normal. We all have to adjust to the "new normal"
It is possible that the raw grief we are going through is making them sad. We are all trying to survive though so they can see that too I think and hope.
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