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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Daylight on December 12, 2018 at 1:41pm
You are right Brett, we have to be our own advocates and try to fill the space inside with our mom 's love. Even though I am an adult since I lost her, I feel like a 5 year-old lost at a mall crying for her mom. The diference is that this time the child will beber find her again her on earth. That feeling is devastating. Besides, extended family and friend cannot fill the emptiness of our paul. It's just too hurtful and sadly our new normal. Reality has a way to punch you right in the middle of your face. Hierve, I still feel that she will come back from a trio. I think is too much for my mind to accept that I will never see her again any time soon.
Comment by Brett Bowman on December 12, 2018 at 12:39pm

That word (Unprotected) really resonates with me. My mom was my rock. No matter how old I became, I was always her little boy. I still am. The world seems like a cold place without her. And you learn the difference between total, unconditional love, and the reality of what is left to us. I have friends and extended family, but they have their own families. after my mom died I always felt like I was at arm's length from others. 

I have also distanced myself from some. There are people in my life that I have realized, just maybe do not care as much as I thought they would have. That's why I have said here before, sometimes we have to be our own advocate. It's not ideal, but if you look around, and there is no one there to lend you a hand, you have to try to stand up on your own. That's not ideal. Sometimes that's what we are left with though. 

Comment by Daylight on December 12, 2018 at 11:52am
I agree with you a 100% M Adams, we don't know how much we need that source of unconditional love until we lose it. We are let feeling so hurt, fearful, helpless and unprotected.
Comment by M Adams on December 12, 2018 at 11:21am

I think we don’t realize how much strength we’re drawing from that steady base of unquestioning love, until death intervenes.  Never imagined myself feeling so unprotected and fearful — even sounds outside scare me.  

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 12, 2018 at 10:59am

Isolated, alone, and unprotected, may be the best description I have heard.

Comment by Daylight on December 12, 2018 at 7:33am
Thanks Avi, that would be nice. I wonder what time is in India? Here in Argentina is 10.30 am. Someday it would be great if we all can talk via Skype. Wish you all a nice day.
Comment by Avi on December 12, 2018 at 6:37am

HI Daylight. 

Thanks. 

Any one who want to talk on skype, please feel free to contact me at avitiwari26@gmail.com

Comment by Daylight on December 12, 2018 at 6:00am
Thanks Brett, I'm trying to do my best but grief is a heavy burden. I feel isolated, alone and unprotected. I've never expected to lose my mom( as nobody does). It was too sudden. Plus, I don't have really close family since I am the only child from this marriage, so It's hard for me not to feel lonely. Christmas is proving to be the most difficult part of the years. In January will be my mom's death anniversary and somehow Christmas brought all the memories of the day of her death. I can't talk to anybody because they either think: It's been a year, get over it or we don't want to talk about your mom because we don't want you to feel sad. So, this group is the only place where feel confortable sharing my real feelings that sometimes may sound a little insane. Thanks for being there.
Comment by Brett Bowman on December 12, 2018 at 12:42am

I hope that you are well, Daylight.

Comment by Daylight on December 11, 2018 at 10:25pm
Hi, everyone! It has been a long time. I just want to let you know that I read all your posts. Avi, this is my first Christmas without my mom too. I feel very bad to be honest and I don't know what to do. I'm so glad this group exists. I'm an ocean away from you and yet so close... Brett thanks for your words! They always make me feel better. Hope you all a good night and that you can find confort in sharing your feelings here since people outside this group don't understand us.
 

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