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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Brett Bowman on January 1, 2019 at 1:00am

I felt that as well. There were times when my mom would bounce back and be able to drive and shop and take care of herself. Those were such good times. It always culminated with mom and I watching television at the end of the night, laughing over the same episodes of Everybody Loves Raymond over and over again. I just enjoyed my mom's company. She was my best friend, and then couple that with our dogs, I couldn't have asked for anything more. I will miss that for the rest of my life.

And then the gratitude. When the chips were really down, my mom was so grateful that I was there for her. If I just got her a glass of water, I could see it in her eyes. Once I heard her talking on the phone to one of her sisters. She said, "I couldn't ask for better care. If I so much as cough he is standing over me." That just made my heart leap. My mom was a single mom who did it all for us, and even if it were only one of her children, she seemed so pleased that I was trying to give back. It always kind of surprised my mom that a man could be tender. She trusted me so much and that meant the world to me.

Comment by M Adams on January 1, 2019 at 12:24am

In my case the gift was being able to help my mom and to be with her.  Despite her health challenges there was a lot of joy in our relationship, joy that is gone from the house now.  Very empty here without her spirit of celebration and gratitude.  I’m realizing that being there for her death, holding her hand as she died, was not as important to me as being there in the years before when we were so close and shared so much.  I am grateful to have been there at the end, and it was my honour and responsibility, but it was also traumatic, a trauma that those who choose not to help are spared.  

My mom and I played scrabble together a lot — since her death I have not played. Tonight, though, thought I would try to play with my brother as a sort of ritual, and found the board mysteriously broken.  Not a big deal but brought tears.  Never know what will do that these days.

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 31, 2018 at 8:51pm

Being my mom's caretaker was the greatest blessing of my life, but it has some with a cost. I wouldn't trade with my brother's and sister in anyway shape or form. When they remember mom, I'm not sure what they remember. I mean, they have memories, but not like what I have. I could not have gotten more from my relationship with my mom, and I was fortunate enough to be with her until her dying breath, but that doesn't make it any easier. It's not easy for any of us. Far from it.

Comment by SelV on December 31, 2018 at 8:07pm

Indeed Brett, sadness personifies us. 

My five siblings have returned to their more or less 'normal' life with their spouses, children or pets and work, social life. Mum was never a long term responsibility for them. I cannot be angry with my siblings or envy them at all. I am happy for them...at least they do not have to wallow in the grief for this long. How long for me...I don't know. Let nature takes it course.

Comment by Avi on December 31, 2018 at 6:02am

Yes well said Brett. Just looking this new year eve as yet another day. Hope to see the light at the end of tunnel. 

Hugs to all friends here and thanks for your continuous support. Will love to talk to you guys over phone or skype someday. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 31, 2018 at 1:23am

Hugs to you, Crystal. I'm right there with you.

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 31, 2018 at 1:21am

SelV, in so many ways your post reminds of something anyone of us would say. The timing is different but we all have similar feelings. I have three cousins who lost their mom just a couple of months ago, but they are so much farther along in their development than I am, and I know that has so much to do with their support system. Many of us just can't replace that unconditional love. I know I can't. I love my dog. She is all that I have.

I have said this before. We are a sad group. I don't mean that we are bad people. I just mean that we are literally sad. We are brokenhearted. Keep taking baby steps. Do what you have to do to make it through another day. Always have hope that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Pray. This road is leading us somewhere.

Comment by Crystal K on December 31, 2018 at 1:14am

Sending hugs to everyone today and tomorrow. Another year without my mom :( Missing her so much. 

Comment by SelV on December 31, 2018 at 12:20am

Well done 2018...you ripped my heart or should I say burnt it?

What an emotional roller coaster ride it had been! It still is and guess it would still be till my last breath. Cos my mother was the only one I had in my life who truly loved and cared about me. She was my everything, my world. And now she is just a memory(tears rolling down my cheeks)!!!

Should I forgive and forget you...2018?

I am not okay...just like everyone here who is yet to move on. If that is possible at all!

Tired. Exhausted. In every aspect.

All the best to everyone for 2019.

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 26, 2018 at 4:27pm

Avi, I'm sorry it was a hard day for you. I'm glad that Christmas is over. I hate to say that, but it's true. Too many memories. 

 

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