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I miss my Mom!

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Comment by Brenda on Thursday
My mom and I have been each others world since my parents divorce when I was 8. My mom has been my everything and in the same respect I was hers. We have talked everyday several times a day everyday. My mom was diagnosed with glioblastoma stage 4 brain cancer, I remember walking outside the hospital to throw up when I was told. I always knew I would do anything and everything for my mom, so taking her home and caring for her everyday, was no concern to me, I just hoped I would be able to handle everything, dr.s appointments, her meds, therapies, food, care, her support. I would do anything for my mom, she was and is my life! I had siblings who couldn't give as much and often would want me to place mom in a home, I would never, could never. I struggle sometimes because I wished I could of done something more, I don't know what or how, just more. My mom and I were thick as thieves together. And I always knew, felt in my heart,I should go first, I think my mom knew that too, when she was diagnosed she was more concerned about me and who would take care of, look out for me. I am now finding out she had conversations with everyone about looking out for me. During her 10 months of diagnosis and fight for life, she worried about me everyday and I worried about her every minute of the day. I know you understand the love and closeness I had with my mom, because so many of you cherished the same relationship. She was and is my everything. I just feel so lost and lonely without her physical presence. Glioblastoma is a horrible cancer, a piece of my mom was lost everyday, but she never forgot me. I am going through guilt of not giving or doing enough, loss of a piece of me, and this incredible amount of sadness. Seeing and watching your loved one on a daily basis transition in front of your eyes is complete sadness, but yet the best gift the lord could have given me. I was with my mom, holding her, loving her until her last breath. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. My mom, like so many of yours is my everything! How does one continue when they feel they have nothing?
Comment by Brett Bowman on Thursday

Brenda, I hope that you will continue to post. We are here if you ever need a friend or an understanding ear. Lord knows, we know grief, and we understand. Like Theresa, I would love to know more about your relationship with your mom, and sometimes it helps to tell that story. Many of us have been posting for a long, long time, and we know each other's stories inside and out. It means a lot to me that these guys know my story. Theresa and I lost our moms the same week. My grief journey almost mirrors hers. Our stories are very different, but she and I have traveled a long road together, because we have one thing in common. Our mothers were the center of our world, and we loved them with all of our hearts. 

Comment by Theresa on Thursday

Brenda.  I miss her every day I leaned on my mother 100% she was my whole world and my everything I understand completely where you’re coming from it’s very hard. May I ask I didn’t read your story if you could tell me what happened and how old your mom was only if you want to. 

Comment by Brenda on Thursday

Missing mom every day.  What she would say to me for advice, lifting me up when I am down, listening when no one else does.  Mom's are some of the greatest people out there and my mom was sure one of the best!  Getting through the day seems impossible and I am just crashing at the end of my work day, just trying to get through the sadness and grief only to do it again tomorrow.  I don't feel like I will ever be happy anymore.....

Comment by Brenda on Tuesday

It does help to connect to people on this site.  It helps to have others who have had a connection with their mother similar to mine.  I appreciate everyone's stories and responses.  I know my new "normal" was something I never asked for, but it is my reality.  I miss you everyday mom and my love for you is so strong!  I am really missing my mom's voice these last couple of days, she always knew just what to say and how to say it to me. Such a whole in my heart and life.

Comment by Brett Bowman on February 9, 2020 at 11:21am

Brenda, you found the key. Because we love our mom so much, we try our hardest to honor them by taking baby steps. As much as my mom suffered in her last days, it would have been so much worse for her if she had thought that I wouldn't have been able to survive without her. She would have fought and clawed to stay alive, but that would not have been possible. Her body was shutting down. I like to believe that my mom died in peace because she had enough faith in me to believe that I would be okay.

What Theresa wrote is so true. Our moms were human, too. If I had been the one that died, my mom would have been the one who is suffering now. We were our mom's caretakers. We lessened their load as best we could. We have to continue to do that by trying to be happy. If we can't do that for ourselves, we should at least try for our moms. That is what I have been doing for the last four years. I'm trying. I can't say I'm winning, but I am trying.

Comment by Theresa on February 9, 2020 at 8:00am
Brenda. If I have to say losing my mother was the hardest thing in my life my dad passed away 20 years ago from cancer from asbestos but I knew that’s what was going to happen I had no idea that my mother was going to go into cardiac arrest and she would not be coming back and I didn’t get to say goodbye I live with that I miss her every day every single day if I was to say over time you learn to live with it and you kind of make a new life. Things that I did before like call her every day on my way to work on my way home every night it all ceased it was like I had to get used to living without it and living without her there so many things that happen in my life that I feel like I need her for because she was all I ever had she had me later in life when she was 42. I don’t think a day goes by that I don’t think about her it brings tears to my eyes but there’s really nothing I can do about it I just have to keep going I remember one day she said to me these exact words she said sweetheart I’ve lived my life you have to live yours but although I do remember when we went to the cemetery where her mother was buried she cries and that was 45 years ago. Finding the people I did on this group really did help me because I have no one else to talk to
Comment by Brenda on February 8, 2020 at 11:29am

Brett I can relate to so much of what you write.  My mom passed December 30th, 2019, so the rawness is still so vivid. I yearn for her like I am a little girl so much, even though I am an adult.  My mom was and is my everything, we have always been there for each other.  I still talk to her everyday, look at her photos, and journal.  My life is so empty and cold, it's just a dark place without her, she was my light.  At times I feel so lost and out of control, but for my mom, because that's what she would want, I take a step, I do what needs to be done at the moment with tears, sadness, and pain.  It feels good to be part of this group, to talk to people who miss their mom everyday!  

Comment by Brett Bowman on February 7, 2020 at 9:43pm

Brenda, there are a myriad of small steps. I call them baby steps, because when we lose our moms, we are like toddlers again. I lost my mom on Christmas eve. The next morning the tears really flowed, and I remember, as I was crying, I kept saying, "Mommy!!" I needed my mommy. There I was, a full grown man calling for his mommy. I'm not ashamed of that though. There is still a little boy in me, and my mom taught me how to walk and to talk. She provided my security. And maybe I didn't know at the time she died, but she still did. After she died the world just seemed like a much colder place. It still seems that way. My mom was the person who worried about me each day, who worried that I had good food to eat, or that my car was going to break down. It's hard to lose that. What a mother gives is pure love. There is nothing better. Well, it's half gone. I still love her every bit as much, but she is no longer here to reciprocate. I can say, "I love you mom," but I can't hear her say it in return. And that really hurts. It hurts too much.

Please feel free to talk to us. None of us have a magic formula that will make you feel better, but we sure understand. We all have a similar story, and we are all here for the same reason. We love and miss our moms.

Comment by Brenda on February 7, 2020 at 5:39pm

Thank you for the kind words, M Adams, Brett, and Theresa.  Today is a hard day, I miss my mom Barbara so much!  Everyday I seem to mourn something else, her wit, her friendship, her unconditional love.  I feel like I have lost everything.  Finding ways to cope everyday feels like a horrible ride I want to get off.  Thank you, this is a small step that is helping me.

 

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