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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Sue Toler on July 16, 2019 at 11:26am

It is such a traumatic event, especially when you have had a wonderful Mom.  It is so hard knowing she is gone.  Knowing this is permanent.  There is no one that can fill the void she left.  My brother was close to Mom, but he was never as close as I was.  I need to work on trying to feel safe.  That is what is missing & I never realized it.  The restless anxiety is not feeling safe.  Thank you for your insight & wisdom.  

Comment by Brett Bowman on July 15, 2019 at 3:27pm

While I never forget that my mom is gone, for some reason it just hits me over the head sometimes. Just out of the blue I'll be like, "Mom is gone." It's horrible. It's ever present. And the thing is that it is always with us, even when we are not aware. It was a traumatic event. Even if we wanted to forget, we would not be able to. The loss is ingrained in us. While it will not go away, we can ease our minds by realizing that we are safe. That is a hard thing to do. It's not something that you can just tell yourself, or something that someone else can tell you. You have to feel it and believe it. That's our challenge. We have to keep trying.

Comment by Sue Toler on July 15, 2019 at 3:04pm

My Mom also.  I could always talk to her about anything & knew she was someone I could totally trust.  I am constantly thinking of something I want to share with her & then I remember she is gone.  I loved spending time with her.  She was always there for me & my brother.  

Comment by Brett Bowman on July 15, 2019 at 2:23pm

There is no doubt that it is anxiety. In fact, I think we are experiencing fight or flight. Since birth my mom had been my security blanket.

Comment by Sue Toler on July 15, 2019 at 1:17pm

It is still numbing to think my Mom is gone & I can't talk to her or see her again.  I lost part of me when she passed.  Someone said the restless feelings I have are really anxiety.  Daily crying is part of my life.  Feeling lost, sad & alone.  I wish & hope better days for all of us grieving.  It is a sad journey. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on July 15, 2019 at 12:47pm

I would rather cry on the outside than on the inside. Crying on the outside is a release. I am really tired of being sad. I'm also tired of being scared. Life without my mom still seems like a scary proposition. All we can do is to continue to put one foot in front of the other, and hope that better days are ahead. We all need hope.

Avi, it's wonderful that you have someone to concentrate all of your love on.

Comment by SelV on July 14, 2019 at 11:18pm

Avi, I am glad for you. You have somebody-your flesh and blood-to live for...you seem to have made that your motivation. Good for you!

It is 15 July and 16 months since my mother left me for good. Nothing but a tearful day for me. Not only crying outside but also inside. So much pain. I am just a sad person...even when I appear happy, it is smiling depression. 

Comment by Sue Toler on July 12, 2019 at 10:16am

So glad you have your daughter.  I was so close to my Dad & so many wonderful memories of time I spent with him.  It has been over four months since I lost my Mom.  I try to stay busy, but still have a lot of grief triggers. I still cry & miss Mom every day.  Some days are rougher than others.  So happy you have hope & motivation to live.  Your daughter & family need you, take care, 

Comment by Avi on July 12, 2019 at 9:56am

Hi All, 

Hope everybody doing good. My daughter is growing up and keeps me busy but any day I sit and feel guilty of not serving my mother, I feel like crying. She should have enjoyed so much with her grand daughter but destiny had some other plans. 

The journey is tough but need to complete it to meet her again. This is a hope and a motivation to live. 

Comment by Sue Toler on June 26, 2019 at 6:16am

Brett, thank you for your kind words.  My Mom & I were so close & I wanted her to stay in her home & know she was taken care of.  Her life resolved around my Dad, me & my brother.  I am thankful I could be her caretaker.  I just try to remember all the wonderful memories I have of Mom & truly hope to see her again when she is strong & healthy.  I know I will always have a void without her.  This group is wonderful & I am so thankful for everyone here.  

 

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"Brett so true she was my security blanket I feel like I have no one to lean on that understood me like her You know what keeps coming in my mind. How true it is and scary that everything has a beginning and an end."
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"M, the problem is that our security blankets were ripped away. Like you, sometimes I am glad to be sad. I feel like I am closer to my mom when I am crying. At least, her memory is fresher with me when I am in that zone. I feel like the hard reality…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Theresa, millions, billions of people have lost their moms. Sometimes someone will tell me that they have lost their mom, too, but they were able to deal with it, and they wonder why I haven't dealt with it as well. This may sound like an…"
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M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Definitely a colder world now.  I like the image of the security blanket — like, as we go forward, we will always keep it but eventually may be able to wash it, fold it nicely, and put it in some place of honour close at hand but without…"
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"The world just became a colder place when my mom died. I just remember feeling like all was right with the world when my mom was in the next room. "
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