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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Sue Toler on Thursday

They told me that Mom had a heart attack.  It happened on the weekend.  I had made her breakfast & she seemed fine.  I am thankful she was at home & that I was with her, but it hurts so much knowing she is gone.  I just wish I could tell her one more time how much I love her & what a wonderful Mom she was.  

Comment by Brett Bowman on Thursday

I was with my mom when she passed and it was not sudden. I may have thought I was prepared. I wasn't. I tried to say and do all of the right things. Still, after her last breath, it was as though I hadn't prepared at all. I knew what to do. I knew who to call, but how do you go from having someone be a constant part of your life, the best part, to not having her at all? It's an odd feeling. I was just looking at her, seeing that same familiar face, but I knew she was far away from me.

It was worth it though. Mom will always be worth it.

Comment by Sue Toler on Thursday

Thanks so much!  It helps having others that understand.  Some of my family is supportive & that helps.  It helps just having someone listen that truly understands.  I have one sibling, but he was never as close to my parents.  I was with my Mom when she passed & it was so sudden.  Someone told me you are never ready & I know I wasn't.  

Comment by Brett Bowman on Thursday

It's important to have people in your life who understand, even if they are on a message board like this, because sometimes you have to look far and wide to find someone to walk with you.

Sometimes I will call my mom's sister. She will listen for a minute and then she will start talking about her grand kids latest accomplishments, or about a vacation that her kids are taking. I am not afforded grief.

Sometimes we have to take this walk alone. There are people who have a wonderful support system. God Bless them. There are others who do not. I come here from time to time because I know that the people here understand. I hope to offer a listening ear to others as well. I can't be where you are and put my arm around you, but I can sure listen, and I sure do understand.

Comment by Sue Toler on Thursday

Thank you, some days are better than others.  I feel so for you.  My Mom was the center of my world also.  I lived with her & took care of her.  I am so thankful that I could be there for her, but now I miss her so much.  My whole life has changed.  This website is such a blessing & help right now.  

Comment by Brett Bowman on Thursday

Three months is not very long. It is still very fresh for you. There will be a lot of triggers. Sometimes they will hit you out of the blue. Other times you know that one is coming, like if you have to drive by a familiar place. It's important to face them head on. It sounds like you are.

Comment by Sue Toler on Thursday

I never cried much before, but I do now.  I think crying does help.  I had a trigger this morning & have been crying since.  It has been over three months, but I still feel numb.  

Comment by Sue Toler on Thursday

I had such a close bond with my Mom.  We always were so close.  I feel the same way.  There is just such a loss now.  I miss her so much.  There is nothing that compares to a mother's love.  I was blessed to have a wonderful Mom, but I miss her so much now.  I talked to her about everything.  She was the one person in my life I knew I could trust & that really cared.  

Comment by Avi on Thursday

I agree Brett. It is mainly the guilt. Thanks for the nice words

Comment by Brett Bowman on Thursday

After my mom died I came to a sad reality. It didn't really matter who reached out to me. I mean, it certainly helped to have a shoulder to lean on, but the only person I really wanted to talk to was my mom. I can't have that. We can't have that.

Avi, what you are talking about is two fold. One: It's hard to have a good time because we remember what we have lost, and it can hit you right in the middle of a good belly laugh. Grief has a very long reach. Two: And this is most unfortunate, is the frequent guilt that accompanies grief. It's one thing for me to say to myself, "How can I be having a good time without mom?" I can live with that. It's when I start feeling guilt about all of the things I think I should have done. Hindsight is 20/20. I can't have the old days back. I hope and pray that we all can let go of the lingering, ever present grief that we have. We can learn from our mistakes, but we cannot go back and make them right. Mom's have strong shoulders. If ever I let my mom down, she loved me with all of her heart knowing full well that I was a long way from perfect. It's that unconditional love that I miss the most.

 

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