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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by M Adams on February 15, 2019 at 5:58pm

Brett, it gives me such a lift to hear about your new gig — sounds perfect! Lucky kids too, great when they can connect with an adult who also makes them laugh.  

Your comment re the spirit world app that Avi came across brought back a memory for me.  Personally I don’t think that good or bad spirits reach out through apps, so I wouldn’t be scared of such a thing, but your reaction reminded me of my mom’s reaction when I was 11 and a friend brought her ouiji board over.  We were carefully following the instructions until my mom became curious and peeked in on us — she got VERY upset about the possibility of “something bad happening” and my friend and her board suddenly needed to go home for supper ASAP.  

Comment by Brett Bowman on February 15, 2019 at 12:34pm

Avi, things like that scare the crap out of me. I mean, how do you know that you are actually communicating with your mom, and not something bad? I believe that you may open yourself to something that may attach itself to you. That's just personal opinion though. I have a friend who used a medium to contact her mom and it gave her a lot of closure. I just don't want to take that chance. I do talk to my mom. Of course she doesn't talk back. And every night I say, "I love you mom." I also tell God to tell her that I love her when I pray. I've just come to the conclusion that I will not be able to be with my mom again in this life.

I've had a good week. I changed jobs. I am a Personal Trainer at Wellness Center now. Yesterday I did a group session with children. Making them laugh and having a healthy impact in their lives made me feel like I had some purpose again. We have a lot of cancer survivors that I want to work with. I didn't feel guilty about feeling good which is a big step for me. My mom would have been happy for me.

Theresa, although I had a good day... yes, our lives have changed. Life will never be the same without our moms. You're in my prayers, my friend.

Comment by Theresa on February 15, 2019 at 5:22am

No we should not, God is the only communicator Avi, you are right.

We should not disturb the deceased, they are in peace, it is us who are not in peace.

I still struggle everyday, I just have come to recognize that this is my new life.  

Comment by Avi on February 15, 2019 at 3:08am

Hi Friends, 

Few days back I came to know an app EquoVox which can help you communicate with your loved ones who are deceased. It seems be fake to me but have seen some videos on you tube people claiming its real. Did anybody on this group tried this or should we try such things in first place. As per Hindu mythology, I should not disturb the deceased loved ones as they are in peace. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on February 9, 2019 at 8:23pm

Avi, just keep focusing on the good things in your life. You are blessed.

Comment by Avi on February 8, 2019 at 3:27am

Yes Brett. We need to make everything OK which is difficult. I need to go to office daily, spend 8 hours there, have food, wash my clothes and do everything which I am supposed to do. At the deep of my heart I don't want to do anything. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on February 5, 2019 at 3:19pm

I think it's those tricks and distractions (though necessary) that gets us in trouble. There is a stark reality to what has happened that will not be ignored. When I go to bed there are no distractions.

We need to be able to convince ourselves that everything is okay. And the best way to do that is to make everything as okay as possible. I have a long way to go to make that happen. 

Comment by Avi on February 5, 2019 at 8:34am

Similar to what Brett mentioned, yesterday's night was nightmare for me. I wake up two time in panic not sure why. 

I cried a lot for two days and cannot do anything but to accept and regret. 

Comment by M Adams on February 4, 2019 at 8:43pm

I have something similar I think, rush of negative thoughts at lights out and then when I’ve finally managed to trick or distract most of them away and start to drift, it’s like I suddenly find out that my mother is dead, my husband is dead, like something that just happened, although it’s been months for my mother and more than two years for my husband.  And my heart starts pounding and it’s like I’m terrified, although at the same time I’m not deluded, I do know that it isn’t new information, but it feels like it is.  Started reading some stuff lately about considering that love and especially the people we love are on loan to us, and maybe that is making some sense to me as an approach that might help me to better accept my current reality. Not yet though.

Comment by Brett Bowman on February 4, 2019 at 7:21pm

I just want to add... this is horrible. I always miss my mom so much, but there are times when the reality that my mom is not coming back is just too much. I couldn't sleep last night. When the lights are out and it's so quiet, I can think so much more clearly, and that's not always a good thing, because I can picture my mom so well. Sometimes I feel almost a sense of panic when I feel the reality of my mom's death. It's like I can close my eyes and it all seems so fresh, and I wonder how time got away from me so quickly. Just yesterday (It seems like) she was here. Now she's gone. All in the twinkling of an eye. I want my old life back, but I cannot have it, ever again. That is so hard to accept.

 

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