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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Theresa on December 8, 2018 at 2:29pm

Brett, my mom said those exact words.....

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 8, 2018 at 9:46am

Your mom sounds a lot like mine. She also used to say, "I lived my life, now you have to live yours." 

Comment by Theresa on December 8, 2018 at 5:56am

You know what when my mom could not be resuscitated, her eyes were wide open and looking toward the right towards me as I walked in, she saw me I know it.  I shut her eyes.  I wanted the hospital staff to leave me alone.  They were unhooking her from the monitor, one nurse was so kind, she said I was talking to your mom and she went unconscious, it was very peaceful, that helped knowing she was not gasping for air or screaming.  It was awful watching the ambulance guy on the bed on his knees doing chest compressions, my mom looked exactly like a Raggedy ann doll, she was gone no matter what.  From that point on I was in another world like my body was here but I was not.  That went on for a year.  

Let me tell you guys my moms sister had a son that was in excellent shape, he was playing tennis and died of a massive heart attack at 44 years old on the tennis court, my moms sister went on the live until 97, my mom used to say you should not have to bury your children.

Comment by SelV on December 8, 2018 at 12:37am

Let those tears flow..

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 7, 2018 at 10:56pm

SelV, your mom would have had it no other way. She saw you take your first breath. You saw her take her last. I experienced that as well. If I had my way, I would have gone before my mom. Is that selfish of me? Yes. I don't care. Losing mom was too much. I know about the circle of life, but it still hurts, horribly.

My mom died with her eyes open. She was staring at me. That was really hard. She died on Christmas Eve so it took a long while to get the Hospice nurse there, and a lot longer to get the funeral home there. I couldn't close my mom's eyes. I couldn't be the person who closed here eyes for the last time. The Hospice nurse did that. I just sat there staring at her. She was looking at me but she couldn't see me. She was gone.

I broke down today too. I was in my car. I heard a Christmas song that reminded me of mom. Just about everything reminds me of my mom.

Comment by SelV on December 7, 2018 at 10:08pm

Dear all...the thought "What if I had died due to unforeseen circumstances and my elderly widowed mother had to grief my death?" crossed my mind many times. Knowing my mother, her world (of me and her) would have collapsed and she would have probably succumbed to broken heart syndrome. 

Work, movies online, cooking, grocery shopping and household chores have been my distractions currently. 

Work - to pay bills

Movies - to kill time

Grocery shopping/cooking - to fill my stomach

Household chores - to keep the house clean

Just going through the motions -no passion, no joy in anything I do. 

The living daylights are like living nightmares. Sleep always rescues me temporarily from the pain and sorrows, guilt and regrets. 

Today, as I was washing my mother's bathroom, I broke down uncontrollably reliving my mother's final moments - she fell and passed on in the bathroom.  The woman who saw me taking my first breath, I had to watch her taking her last breath!!! 

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 7, 2018 at 8:08pm

I think you're right, Theresa. We are a sad bunch. I think our moms would be touched that we love them so much, but they would probably also want us to be happy and move on. I just don't think that's possible, nor do I believe that my mom would have been able to move on if it had been me.

Comment by Theresa on December 7, 2018 at 7:07pm

So I have been really busy at work and with moving, but of course at night when I get in bed I cry and cry.

I finally have come to realize this will be the new normal I guess, I do not think I will every stop missing my mom ever...

Comment by Theresa on December 6, 2018 at 5:34am

:)

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 6, 2018 at 12:15am

Avi, I can't imagine that anyone who has lost their mom doesn't feel some kind of guilt after their passing. I can see how much you love your mom, and I can guarantee you that she knew. If she could be with you right now, do you think she would hug you, or do you think she would be angry at you? I don't have to know your mom to know the answer to that question.

Look up in the sky and say, "I Love You Mom." She will hear you.

 

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