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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Brett Bowman on December 7, 2018 at 8:08pm

I think you're right, Theresa. We are a sad bunch. I think our moms would be touched that we love them so much, but they would probably also want us to be happy and move on. I just don't think that's possible, nor do I believe that my mom would have been able to move on if it had been me.

Comment by Theresa on December 7, 2018 at 7:07pm

So I have been really busy at work and with moving, but of course at night when I get in bed I cry and cry.

I finally have come to realize this will be the new normal I guess, I do not think I will every stop missing my mom ever...

Comment by Theresa on December 6, 2018 at 5:34am

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Comment by Brett Bowman on December 6, 2018 at 12:15am

Avi, I can't imagine that anyone who has lost their mom doesn't feel some kind of guilt after their passing. I can see how much you love your mom, and I can guarantee you that she knew. If she could be with you right now, do you think she would hug you, or do you think she would be angry at you? I don't have to know your mom to know the answer to that question.

Look up in the sky and say, "I Love You Mom." She will hear you.

Comment by Avi on December 5, 2018 at 11:58pm

Hi All

The last two days have been very hard. Somehow guilt is again taking hold of me but trying to overcome by indulging in work. Whenever I feel somebody taking good care of their parents, I feel what wrong I did that my mom passed away. 

Wishing peace for everyone. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on November 29, 2018 at 12:43am

Luisa, the second year was harder than the first. Partly because the first year was all surreal. It was like my mom was away on a business trip. Also, when Christmas came, so many people supported me because they knew that my mom had died on Christmas Eve. This will be my third Christmas and people have stopped calling, maybe a couple of people will call, but most have moved on. If my memories of my mom have faded somewhat, I know they have faded for other people. People move on. I don't want to be selfish, but I wish they hadn't. I am nowhere near finished grieving.

I completely understand what you mean about your mom never meeting you boyfriend. I actually feel that way about my dog. She's getting old and I still remember the way my mom would baby talk her. She loved her. One day she will pass. And I can't imagine having a dog that my mom doesn't know. That may sound odd but it makes complete sense to me.

You are doing great! You are living your life. Jesus said that we cannot plow a straight row if we keep looking backwards. I still look back more than I look forwards. That's my problem. I don't want it to be yours or anyone else's. You can love and remember you mom with all of your heart and still look forwards.

I am proud of you, Luisa. You will be okay without your mom. You have work to do. You are a mom yourself. Looking into the holiday's is like looking into an abyss, but don't go in there alone. You have two willing hands to hold on to (your daughter and your boyfriend). Hold on tight, and keep moving forwards. 

Comment by Luisa Salter on November 28, 2018 at 11:24pm

Hi everyone. Just now I had a chance to read through recent posts. I want to tell everyone how grateful I am that this group is here. Over the past 15 months since my Mom passed I feel that the world has moved on from her death while it feels like yesterday to me. It is a relief to read these posts and be reminded that feeling the way I do is normal even after a year. Brett I remember reading your posts from the past, when you said that the second year after your Mom was gone was harder than the first, because for the first year you felt sort of numb or like you were in a state of shock. Looking into this second year without my Mom, especially the holidays, sometimes feels like looking into a dark and scary abyss.

I have to work hard to trust God and believe that I will be ok without her, and that His mercy and grace will carry me through now and for the rest of my life. 

I do think that these things I've done recently for the first time without my Mom, like moving to a new house, getting into a new serious relationship, now with someone whom my Mom will never meet...They have unearthed more grief. 

I would give almost anything for one more Christmas, one more phone call...

But I know that we all leave this earth in God's time. I also believe that God graces us and shows us mercy through people and relationships that enter our lives. We are here for eachother now, in this online support group. We are all still here and alive, sharing this experience. It brings me comfort. It really does.

Acceptance of our new reality, being at peace with the past and with ourselves, learning to be happy and grateful for the lives that we have...to focus on all of our blessings and not take them for granted...these are things that we have to choose; we have to fight for them. 

Comment by Theresa on November 28, 2018 at 7:38pm

Virginia we are not angry, we are just concerned, but, maybe you need professional help.   

I really don't know what else to say to make things better.

I have been moving for the past two days and I am exhausted, I'm drained literally, I just wanted to check in while I had a second.  

Comment by Brett Bowman on November 28, 2018 at 6:50pm

Virginia, the truth is that your post was very carefully worded, and you will be checking in every day to see if it had the desired effect. I just don't have the time or energy to play these games. 

Comment by Virginia G on November 28, 2018 at 1:37am

Well looks like I got everyone angry.  I thought we were supposed to tell all our thoughts here.  I know they do on the spouse group.  Especially since I know at least one of you had the same thoughts at one time.  

You can all calm down.  I won’t post on this group anymore.

 

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