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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Brett Bowman on November 16, 2018 at 11:58pm

I love the Doors. Jim Morrison is just the coolest. And I love that song. It's about feeling alone in a crowd. I can relate.

Virginia, why would God tell you that you deserve to be alone? I think it is quite the opposite. You are telling yourself that you deserve to be alone. If you are anything like me, you feel alone because the center of your life, the person who loves you the most is gone. Anyone would feel alone. The one person I couldn't bear to lose is gone. And there are no phone calls, no letters, no weekend visits, she's just gone. Is she aware of me? Maybe so, but I can't feel that.

I have read books about heaven but we won't know for sure until we get there. The bible says very little about what heaven is actually like. Jesus did promise in the Sermon on the Mount that there would be comfort for those who mourn. I believe that. Jesus said that God is spirit. I believe that in heaven, we will be given a true understanding of what God is. I think every tree, every blade of grass, is alive, and that you will feel a part of it all. I believe that's what God is.I have no idea what goes on there, though I am pretty sure it beats the crap out of this life. All I know is that my mother is there. That makes me long for the day that I get to be with her. I think that when we die, Jesus himself greets us, and that you will never feel so loved, and so forgiven as when you are face to face with him. I think in that moment it all makes sense. And that it will make sense forever. And best of all, we never have to say goodbye again.

You know, the grass is always greener on the other side. You say that the only people who love you are your family. Well, you're one up on me.

We do live without them. We are doing so right now. It may not feel like living, but remember this, every second that ticks away is one second closer to going home. The clock starts ticking the second we are born. Every day that passes is one day of your life that is behind you. You are closer to heaven with each passing day.

Bluebell, I miss you.

Comment by Virginia G on November 16, 2018 at 11:22pm

I am realizing the only people that truly love me are my family.

So how am I expected to live without them?

Comment by Virginia G on November 14, 2018 at 12:28am

I am thinking God is trying to tell me I deserve to be alone.  

Theresa I know the Doors but don’t like them.  Im old.

And I think the penny was from your Mom.

Brett, I liked your line, “honking load of crap”.  

And who cares what others think.  Cry whenever you want as long as you want.  

Has anyone read any books on Heaven that gave hope?

  

Comment by Theresa on November 13, 2018 at 5:30am

Avi I believe when you are talking to God your mom hears you she is right there.

I also do not get any signals, but pay closer attention.

I was praying to her one night because someone close to me is not well, and I said please mom help, please ask God, and I was doing this as I was putting clothes in the dryer and on the bottom of the washer was a bright shiny penny, and I said you do hear me mom don't you, she used to have a large jug filled with pennies.  Or maybe its just because it fell out of a pocket, but I didn't see anything in there with a pocket, however its all in the way you want to perceive it I guess.

Comment by Avi on November 13, 2018 at 1:42am

I also talk to God now at my home or in temple. It makes me feel that I am talking to my mom. 

I did not receive any signals which make me feel that my mother is nearby but I still believe that she can listen me. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on November 13, 2018 at 12:43am

Theresa, I wish I could go to church with you. Church is very emotional for me. It's a combination of sadness and a feeling that I am close to my mom there. I cry a lot at church. Not out loud, but I try to sit in the back now. I don't know if people would understand. I think there is a lot of, "He lost his mom three years ago." I don't think many people can understand why time doesn't matter. I have not come very far in my journey.

Comment by Avi on November 12, 2018 at 5:54am

know that one day we shall meet again.

These lines motivate me to live. Thanks Theressa. Just install Skype app in your mobile if you use smart phone and then add me as a contact. Rest is very simple. 

Comment by Theresa on November 12, 2018 at 5:52am

Avi I think you are doing great, better than I was at the point you are at, but you have a new child that helps you put your attention on.  You seem to be very kind, I don't know how to skype if I did I would lol

Brett, yes I am going through the exact same feelings you are at this time my friend, I wish we lived closer we could go to church together, it would be nice to have someone to do that with.

Virginia, we never know what people say behind closed doors, I would not write her off as a friend, just know that she is not who you thought she was.  Avi is right thats funny she lied on top of lies, and you knew the truth, as the Doors said "People are Strange" I don't know if anyone even knows who the Doors are, but Brett and myself, lol.  

Let everyone of us today say a prayer for each other that we may find peace in the rest of our lives without the most important person by our side and know that one day we shall meet again.

Comment by Avi on November 12, 2018 at 1:38am

Yes Brett rightly said, people around us will not understand the grief or guilt. 

Virginia, this was unfortunate but a bit hilarious as well. I can understand how hard that lady would have tried to convince you but all futile. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on November 12, 2018 at 1:14am

Virginia, every one of us is that person. All my life I was the funny kid in school and at work. I've heard it my whole life, "You don't have to entertain me." What a honking load of crap that was. When the jokes dried up, the friends dried up. I don't even like to call people because I know they are tired of hearing about how much I miss my mom, or my troubles since then. They don't want to deal with it. I think they see us an Amway salesmen who found a way into their houses.

But to put on a false face is a lie. You have to be who you are, where you are. And if people don't want to hear it, or they don't like being around you, than just try to be strong for yourself. There is nothing to be ashamed of. I don't care if it's sadness or if it's guilt, It's all a product of loving our moms so much. I'll never be ashamed of that.

I'll just make-do the best I can.

 

 

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