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I miss my Mom!

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Comment by Avi on November 1, 2018 at 1:48am

Hi Brett

Thanks a lot. Not sure of others, but yes I can say that I am better than before as I need to be involved in lot of activities. India is a country where hundreds of festivals are celebrated and these festival allow you to get involved in religious and family oriented events. In past 15 days there were more than 5 festivals and each of them has its own significance. One of them was a festival where parents fast for whole day without water to pray for better life of their kids. Also on 07 Nov we have Diwali festival which is like Christmas in India and to add to it Christmas is also celebrated with equal zeal in our country. So this diverts the mind a bit but on the other hand I do not enjoy life as I used to do earlier, rarely laugh and have a kind of numbness always. As you know this is more because of the guilt than grief and I guess it will be same through out. 

I am fine to talk to anybody on skype at avitiwari26@gmail.com. Please add. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on October 31, 2018 at 10:14pm

I wanted to post something because I feel like this discussion is slipping away. And I think I know why. We all came here looking for support, understanding, and hope. If ever there was a group of people who understands how much it hurts to lose your mom it's this one. The problem is, none of us feel any better, We are just as broken as we ever were. And I don't know what to do about that. Not for myself or for any of you. I keep hoping though, for all of us. As long as we have hope we have something. 

I just want each of you to know that I like you all so very much. I've never met any of you but I think of you all as great friends. I hope we all get better. I have the highest hopes for Avi because he has a child to give his heart to. But, maybe, hopefully, there is hope for all of us.

Comment by Avi on October 29, 2018 at 12:21am

Good morning all. 

Wishing you all a peaceful day. I hope I am able to live one day without guilt. 

Comment by Virginia G on October 28, 2018 at 3:49am

I’d give anything to go home

Comment by Virginia G on October 28, 2018 at 3:49am

HOME IS WHERE YOUR MOM IS

Comment by Avi on October 22, 2018 at 7:12am

Completely agree Crystal that whenever something good happens, we think that if she would have been here it would have been great. 

Comment by Crystal K on October 22, 2018 at 6:20am

Hi guys, its been awhile since I posted. Been really busy with work- guess thats a good thing because it means less time for me to dwell on things. My sister just found out she’s pregnant with her fourth kid. Really happy and excited for her, but also very sad that my mom will never meet her grandchild. Tears were shed. I guess this is the reality for us now... happy moments will always have a little bit of sadness. Thats one of the things Im struggling with- everytime something great happens in our family or I achieve one of my personal goals I think “Mom should be here to enjoy this” 

Comment by Avi on October 22, 2018 at 6:18am

I also did not tell my mother that how much I love her. I always took her for granted. 

I can only hope to say sorry now once after I leave the world. Sorry for not taking care of her. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on October 17, 2018 at 9:51am
I would say that your mom was fortunate that she did not suffer that way. Sometimes a person will suffer for years before they die. I am certainly glad that I got to be with my mom at the end and tell her that I loved her every day, but it was horrible watching her suffer, to constantly watch her gasp for breath, and then for me to know what all of that suffering was leading to. I haven't known peace for may years. I was happier even when my mom was on Hospice than I am now. That wasn't fair to her.

Today is another day when I woke up and realized that my mom is dead. It's a horrible thing.

Theresa, you didn't get to tell your mom that you love her, but I promise that she knew. She knew as well as my mom knew that I love her.
Comment by Theresa on October 17, 2018 at 5:51am

I know you know I did not mean it in that way, but of course not, my question, should I be thankful she did not suffer and lay in a bed and me have to watch her suffer and be able to do nothing as so many had to do on this site.  But as you know is it a double edge sword, you all got to be there with your moms, and let them know you loved them, I did not, as my mom used to say the Lord can take you at any time anywhere and thats exactly how he took her without notice.  We all have heavy hearts or we would not be posting on here, each one of our stories different with the same ending.

 

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