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I miss my Mom!

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Comment by Virginia G on October 10, 2018 at 2:43am

Brett,

im all for natural remedies but don’t you think they need to check with dr or pharmacist to make sure it’s ok with their medications?

just a thought to add for safety

Comment by Virginia G on October 10, 2018 at 2:26am

It’s great to wake up shaking isn’t it?  I have had to start taking anti anxiety meds that I didn’t want to take.  It is impossible for me to take care of my Dad.  He doesn’t get it though.  Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s my responsibility and I want him cared for but I can’t.  Not like this.  I am getting angry.  God doesn’t seem to hear me and I don’t understand why.  

Comment by BLUEBELL on October 10, 2018 at 12:44am

I love that book Brett. I will check out the Cortisol manager. It can not hurt and might help.

Bluebell

Comment by Brett Bowman on October 10, 2018 at 12:06am

Bluebell and Theresa, what you are both describing is elevated cortisol. It primarily reaches it's highest level at night and in the morning. I would like for both of you to try Cortisol Manager by Integrative Therapeutics. You can find it on Amazon Prime.

I found Jesus Calling on my mom's nightstand the day after she died. I have read it repeatedly.

Comment by BLUEBELL on October 9, 2018 at 11:23pm

This anxiety is hard to get through sometimes. I am having a surge of adrenaline right now with a pounding heart and an unnamed fear. I have a book called "Jesus Calling". This would be a good time to read it. I also am going to text my brother and shoot the breeze. I am going to beat this and not let it get the best of me.

Bluebell

Comment by Brett Bowman on October 9, 2018 at 10:33am

Nothing in this world wrong with going to church. It can only help. Most churches have speakers in the lobby for people who need to walk around or stand.

I would also advise joining a group at church. There are a lot of choices. I believe that God reaches us through other people, and church is a great place to find those folks.

Comment by Theresa on October 9, 2018 at 5:57am

Bluebell, I wake up anxious all the time, its awful and yes you should go to church because only God sees deep into our soul, when I go on Fridays for my hour with the Blessed Sacrament, Adoration its called, it is so peaceful.

Comment by BLUEBELL on October 8, 2018 at 8:47am

It is morning and I feel like crying. I miss the things I used to do with Mom when she woke up. Now all I have are the cats and my dog to care for and keep me company. It just seems like I should be moving on faster than I am and developing a life without her. But there is a hole in my life that I can not seem to fill. I still have so many days where I just feel lost and anxious. I try reaching out to those around me to help fill the void. Sometimes it helps me. But who the hell wants to hear from me at 5 in the morning when I wake up anxious. 

I am trying to develop a closer relationship with God because I think it will help. But it is slow going. A couple of times I have been invited to attend church with a neighbor. I want to go, but so much of the time it hurts my bum to sit for any length of time, even if I have a cushion to sit on. Maybe I should give it a try and if I can not tolerate it, I can go stand in the lobby.

Bluebell

Bluebell

Comment by Theresa on October 7, 2018 at 6:31am

Brett. yeesh you are right, I can't everyone how many days it just comes across me like a flash and I cry, but not to discourage anyone my mom still cried 45 years after her mom's death, everytime we went to the cemmetary, she would put her hand on the grave stone and say mom, you worked so hard your life and she would have tears in her eyes, of course my mom was the last of 11 children.  There are no siblings left after my mom passed her last brother passed at 97

Christmas is not what I am looking forward to, but I remember through all the heartache my mom had she still put up the wreaths and window lights, Brett her mom died on Christmas eve also and my dad on December 14th.  So December for me is i month I can do without, my dad on Dec 14, my mom on Dec 19, and grandmom on Dec 24.

Comment by Brett Bowman on October 7, 2018 at 2:05am

Virginia, I feel the same way, but we are not going to get our wish. There are lots of other folks who are alive, and my hope is to share my life with one of them. But right now that seems about as likely as getting over my mom.

 

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