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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Jayne on August 20, 2018 at 8:46pm
I miss my mom terribly. I used to be on the a group writing and I am back. I would like to speak to people again who truly understand.
Comment by Avi on August 20, 2018 at 10:04am

Great to hear you BlueBell and I wish that you recover soon. 

Theressa, same pinch as you. My mom was sick but not that much sick to die. She collapsed as soon she entered ICU and the drs there did not react in the best way possible. Also I was kind of numb as well and I still regret that and will do it whole life. I still feel guilt of not rushing her to ICU few hours earlier. 

We cannot get away with it, just learn to live with it. 

Comment by Theresa on August 20, 2018 at 5:42am

No I'm sure there is not, I was thankful though for one nurse there that said these exact words to me "I was talking to your mom and her eyes rolled back, it was very peaceful", I keep hearing the nurse saying that in my mind....but I was like ok, um but my mom was not sick she was fine it astonishes me how you can talk to someone who is healthy and they are gone in a half hour, I go over and over that in my mind.

Comment by Brett Bowman on August 19, 2018 at 8:59pm

I'm glad that I was with my mom when she passed over. I was the last person that she saw and I was able to tell her that it was okay, but you bet I was haunted by all that I saw. There is no good way.

Comment by BLUEBELL on August 19, 2018 at 7:24pm

Actually, I am glad you did not see your Mom pass from this life to the next. I was there  for mine and it haunts me that I watched her struggled for breath. There are other things that happened before they took her away that I will never forget the sound of.

Bluebell

Comment by Theresa on August 19, 2018 at 7:15pm
No she always used to say to me “you never know when it will be your time” I’m mad at myself for not being there and the reason was that I stopped at her house on the way to the hospital thinking they will have to get her settled there’s nothing to rush for......
Comment by BLUEBELL on August 19, 2018 at 6:37pm

I can relate. There is no definite diagnosis whether my Mom passed away from her heart condition or respiratory failure. I will never know. But there was nothing I could have done to prevent it. That was out of my control.

I pray that you feel your Mom's presence soon and that it brings you a peaceful moment.

A thought came to my mind that may or may not be true. Are you angry that your Mom left you so suddenly that you had no time to prepare or even entertain the idea in your mind that she would not live forever? This statement is not meant to be harsh. It is something I am asking you to consider.

Bluebell

Comment by Theresa on August 19, 2018 at 5:28pm

Bluebell, so glad for you

I so wish I could have the same experience

I finally after much though realized what it is that I am having a hard time with about my moms death.....why did she go in CA, I cry and realize that I will live with not knowing the rest of my life, my brother who is 17 years older than I, accepts it much easier than I do.

I am the type person who "needs to know why", I cry and cry and just say please tell me why so I can go on with my life.

Maybe one day.....

Comment by BLUEBELL on August 19, 2018 at 2:44pm

I have made a decision to take baby steps to recover from the trauma of the bleed in my brain. The first step I am working on is thinking of myself as a whole person who has the desire and courage to return to living a life without thinking of myself as sick or that part of my brain is damaged and I will never be the same. Thank the Lord I have the other frontal portion of my brain that is perfectly fine.

The Doctor said I have recovered enough that I can take Advil again to reduce the inflammation in my back/buttocks. I have started with children's liquid form of it and am building up the dose to find out how my stomach tolerates it.

I want to tell you of an experience I had during a private yoga session. I felt warmth on my left shoulder and arm. It felt like my Mom's presence. In my minds eye, I saw her smiling and all her earthly burdens had been lifted. It also felt like she was there for me with unconditional love with not a judgmental thought directed towards me, herself or anyone else. I am so happy to know she is at peace. Maybe part of that peace is that she has accepted the earthly death of her body and now is enjoying what she has been given in her after life.

Bluebell

Comment by Brett Bowman on August 16, 2018 at 11:29am

Avi, yes. That is the circle of life.

 

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