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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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I am lost without her! (MOM) 9 Replies

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I miss my Mom too.

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Not only do I miss her, feel like I lost my purpose. Why go on? 7 Replies

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Comment by Brett Bowman on July 17, 2018 at 10:46am

Theresa, I finally came to the realization that what I was doing wasn't working for me. And I realized that taking an anti-depressant couldn't be any worse than crying all of the time, not sleeping, and destroying myself with guilt and depression. Trusting your doctor in a situation like this is a leap of faith, but remember that you are in charge of your body. If you don't like the anti-depressant that your doctor prescribes you can always stop taking it and try a different one. Taking the pediatric dose may not cut it. It's a good place to start. It gives you the opportunity to gauge how the medication impacts you, but if it is well tolerated you will probably need to try a higher dose to feel the benefits from it. It takes a while to adjust to an SSRI, but if you can hold on the side effects will lessen. If they do not, you can just taper off and try a new one. Be your own advocate. Do what you have to do to feel better.

One of the most disappointing things about being a Nutritionist is that I will suggest a supplement that I know will help a person, but they will be like, "Well, I'll think about it..." and I know that they won't give it a try. I deal with that daily. I can't prescribe anti-depressants. Only a doctor can do that, but I can certainly see when someone needs one. Give yourself a fighting chance to feel better.

Comment by Theresa on July 17, 2018 at 7:46am
Well it probably did help me but I gained about 20 pounds and I hardly eat anything because of my IBS so I don’t know what happened
Comment by Avi on July 17, 2018 at 6:49am

Ok thanks Theresa. I sometimes want to try them but skeptical. 

Comment by Theresa on July 17, 2018 at 6:44am

Avi I tried one Lexapro I did the pediatric does of 5mg

Comment by Avi on July 17, 2018 at 6:33am

Theresa, are you trying too many anti depressants?

Comment by Theresa on July 17, 2018 at 6:16am

Ok so my friend had to do the unthinkable, her dog is not suffering anymore.  But it just set off a crying spell with me.

Maybe I need to go to the dr again, for the 10th time.

So he can just look at me and say, do you want to try and anti-depressant.  ugh

Comment by Theresa on July 17, 2018 at 6:14am

Bluebell how are you?

Comment by Virginia G on July 16, 2018 at 8:58pm

Avi,

I hope your Dad is doing well.  That must have been hard on you being in the hospital.  I am also sorry you are having more guilt like me.  It’s a horrible feeling.  Also one that others don’t understand.

Comment by Avi on July 15, 2018 at 11:19am

Hi All, 

Hope every one is doing fine. Last week my father got an infection and was hospitalized so could not follow much here. Now he is better and recovering. 

Virginia, you seem to be totally engrossed in the guilt which I can understand as I feel the same way. Today I saw one community of Gall Bladder Cancer survivor (same disease which my mom had) and I came to know that my mother's cancer was also treatable to some extent and there are people who have successfully got out of this. I was told by my oncologist in India that it was not treatable as it was stage IV. 

This makes me feel devastated as I feel that more research would have helped her. 

Virginia, you mention that you expect forgiveness from God and your mother. I guess they already forgive you, the issue is that we need to forgive ourselves. 

Comment by Virginia G on July 14, 2018 at 10:31pm

My boyfriend finally gave up.  I don’t blame him at all.

And Brett I will tell you I don’t deserve the prayers, pray for my Mom please.

 

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