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I am lost without her! (MOM) 7 Replies

Started by DeeDee. Last reply by Brett Bowman May 7.

Not only do I miss her, feel like I lost my purpose. Why go on? 5 Replies

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Comment by BLUEBELL on December 20, 2017 at 5:46am


You are in my prayers


Comment by Luisa Salter on December 19, 2017 at 11:14pm

Thanks very much Brett. You are always so kind and welcoming to everyone on this site. I managed to take a couple of steps in the right direction today as far as addressing the stolen bag. It’s a tough time of year as it is, and my job has been really busy and stressful. I told my boss today that this happening seems like a signal from the universe that I need more balance in my life. I’ve been trying to deal with my Mom’s estate on the fly, fitting errands in here and there and that is why I had everything in one bag and in the car  -  there was a bank issue I’ve been trying to deal with and I wasn’t sure what documents I would need so I just had everything. I was trying to squeeze it into a work day but it wasn’t happening. I really want to cut back to  4 days per week at work. But, we’re already short-staffed, my boss doesn’t think the clinic manager will approve it etc etc. Anyway I just have to give the whole thing to God, pray for guidance, keep putting one foot in front of the other. Bless up and big hugs - Luisa 

Comment by Brett Bowman on December 19, 2017 at 10:22pm

Luisa, I actually agree that it was a bad idea to leave that information in your car, but if there is a bright side to this, it probably is that they were just looking for anything valuable. that they could turn into easy cash. More than likely they will get rid of that bag. I sure hope so. I regret that people can be so evil. And what a horrible time for you to have to experience this. I am really sorry.

PS: You don't have to post everyday for me to remember you. You are in my prayers buddy.

Comment by Luisa Salter on December 19, 2017 at 2:32pm

Hi everyone - I know that I have not posted in here for awhile, but I want you all to know that I have been reading your posts and you have all been in my thoughts as we are in this together.

I am having a terrible time today. Sunday night my car was broken into and everything in it was stolen. One of the items was a messenger bag that had ALL paperwork related to my Mom's death and estate. All of the certified death certificates, all legal information, a copy of her estate portfolio including all of hers, my brothers and my own unique identifying information (SSN etc), all of the recipients and ledgers that I've kept related to the trust account, all account information, security codes to get into her storage unit, you name it. I am just devastated and stunned by this. Like, I don't know what to do first and I feel paralyzed. Worst of all I feel like I let my Mom down. It was so stupid of me to leave it in the car!!! I called in to work this morning to tell them I probably wouldn't make it in, but so far today I've just slept, woke up and dropped my daughter off at her Dad's, then realized that I'd left the house without my wallet or phone. Then I got home and just completely fell apart.  I don't know how I will every resolve this. I have filed a report, but I live on unincorporated property and so it is the county sheriff's office who will be dealing with it which is kind of a joke. 

I am incredibly angry at whomever did this. I know it was just some druggies and several neighbors cars were also broken into the same night. If they had a shred of humanity they would return the bag. Now I fear the worst and that they will somehow get ahold of the estate assets or steal someone's identity. I think that the keys to my other car were also in  my gym bag which they took. So now they can come back and steal my other car (which they also broke into and took everything out of the glove box as there wasn't anything else in there).

I'm so sorry I'm trying not to wallow I just feel very overwhelmed right now. I guess I have to go out and start putting one foot in front of the other but OMG this sucks.

Love you all and hope your days is going better than mine!!


Comment by Sherri on December 19, 2017 at 11:29am

Hello Everyone

I just wanted to see how everyone is doing I know its tough for us all no matter how many years its been. I put everything off doing like my tree and shopping until my son returned from his first year at University I said I wanted us all home together I know it was an excuse as nobody helped and I didn't ask I just didn't want the reminder of Christmas as I don't feel like anything this year. I can say now its up(the tree) and I all I do is stare at it and my mom picture I don't think I will every like holidays again they seem so empty even though everyone is around the one person isn't and I can't stopping thinking she not coming. I know I'm finding this hard so I know you guys are just wanted to say your in my prayers and always on my mind along with my mom. I miss her so much seeing everyone so happy makes me want to scream what's so good about it my mom is gone and it feels like the first few days all over again I just cry all the time. Theresa work sounds like a good plan! 

Comment by Theresa on December 19, 2017 at 6:00am

Brett, I just think in my head you'll see one day.

Today is two years since my mom has passed, I can't say I feel any different, I just miss her the same.

I was supposed to be off today, but opted to work, I don't want to be home alone.

Comment by BLUEBELL on December 18, 2017 at 12:51pm


I am hanging in there the best I can. I was in tears this morning and it was not just all about Mom. I miss Christmas when my Dad, Mom, 3 brothers and my sister and me were all together. We were a  whole family then.


I do feel your pain. This is my first Christmas without Mom in 98 years.


Comment by Brett Bowman on December 18, 2017 at 12:45pm

Theresa, your husband may not understand, but he still should have some compassion. I'm not married but I get the same thing all of the time from my family, and I have to be honest, it's pushing me away from them.

Comment by Theresa on December 18, 2017 at 5:59am

Janie, if you want to cry then cry get it out, it do it all the time.
Here's one for ya it annoys my husband when I say things about my mom to him that was two years ago, his mom is still here, I believe in karma
Janie, you will get through that day believe me, tomorrow is two years for my mom.
I'm going to try to occupy my mind and work.
Bluebell, Brett, how are you doing?

Comment by Janie m Snitko on December 17, 2017 at 9:20pm

I want to cry and scream she was my best friend and I know you feel the pain



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