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Comment by Nancy Dynes on February 21, 2017 at 3:54pm
Theresa,
It will be two years in April since my mom went to heaven. I miss her just as much as the day she passed away. At times it feels almost unacceptable that she is isn't coming back. At this point I can do everything I need to do to get through the day, though I still cry privately about once a day. I can be with my family, go out with friends, travel, laugh, etc... However, I don't look forward to things in the same way I used to and beneath everything is always this permanent underlying sadness. I often bring my mom up in conversation, recalling happy times spent with her or talking about how wonderful she was. I've never seen any of my friends doing this in regards to their parents who have passed on, so I thought there must be something wrong with me. My counselor says this a method of keeping her memory alive and is a healthy way to grieve. She also told me that people like us (the ones who grieve so deeply we seek out resources like this group) were blessed with a very special, close relationship with our mothers that not everyone has. So in a way, our grief is a manifestation of the blessing we had with them when they were alive. I think about my mom throughout every single day. How can we not? How can we ever stop missing our beloved mothers who hold a space in our heart nobody else can fill? I suppose I don't want to stop missing my mom or feeling that familiar pain when I wake up each and realize all over again that she's moved on. To not feel it would be like she was truly gone in every sense of the word. I never want her to be gone. If people don't want to hear me talk about her, well, that's just too bad. I don't know if any of this makes any sense or is helpful at all, but I have similar feelings and your post stood out to me. Prayers going up for you!
Comment by Danny on February 17, 2017 at 10:22am

Theresa the pain may lessen but do work on the continuing bond with the parent, talk to your Mom and then you will feel better. Friends are not the right people.

Comment by Danny on February 17, 2017 at 10:20am

Casey i remember you. I dont talk about it with many people. Do my own grief work and talk to those who have actually been through a shock etc. Be well

Comment by Theresa on February 16, 2017 at 5:33am

Hi everyone, for me it is one year and two months

I am just as sad

I miss my mom so much, someone please tell me does the pain lessen in time.

Some days are so bad, I feel like the anxiety will never stop, I try to think of good times, but I seem to revert to my mom is not here anymore.

It is difficult when you have no one to talk to, my friends are tired of hearing it.

I pray that my heart will heal

Comment by Casey on February 15, 2017 at 1:18pm

Danny , I remember you. i think our mothers passed away around the same time. It will be three years on February 18 for me. It is very difficult for me as well. Its just horrible. I never stopped missing mom even though I post less here. It becomes just sort of whats the point of talking about it...everyone is sick of hearing about it.

Comment by Danny on February 15, 2017 at 11:58am

Miss you Mom every day every minute and its been 3 years...seems as if it happened yesterday..

Comment by Shellie on January 25, 2017 at 12:47pm
One other thing is bside grieving fir my mom I'm also grieving for my grandma she was like a mom.my family lived with her and grandpa most of my child hood live. So she was like a mom
My grandma passed on sept 19 2016. She had Alzheimer.
I had gotten a call from mom that morning saying grandma onlyvhad a week tovlive..my grandma lived in seattle and luckily my hubby and i was in seattle visiting some friends. After i got the call i went straight to the hospital to see grandma. Right after i got there the nurses checked grandma vital and they where very loe. The whole time i was there my grandma was sleeping.i knew she could hear me so i just kept talking to her..we spent a couple hours there but we had to get going we had a 8 hr drive back to idaho that night. We weren't even gone 1 hr before i was told she passed awsy..i thought i did something telling her it was okay to go..my ehole family kept telling me she waited for you so you could say your good bye. So having 2 very important lady live with in 3 month from each other hurts..i love you grandma and mom
Comment by Shellie on January 25, 2017 at 12:15pm
I'm going to go and see if i can find that book that been recommended to me..I'm trying so hard to be strong for my family..my parent were married 46 yrs so dad blaming himsrlf..he says if he justen the grey hound down she be here..and he also regretting what he said to me that night he said to me is all i care aboutcis that piece of metal not my mom..he said many times sorry and its he fault ...my whole family a mess .i dont want lose my whole family over the accident..i just want us to learn from it and be stronger for each other..we cant take back what we said or bring mom back to live..
I knew one day i would loss my mom from a illness or something but not the way i did..i thought i would be able tell her i love her
I would have many more years sorry for venting
Comment by Lisa Green on January 25, 2017 at 11:33am

Oh Shellie, my heart goes out to you. I lost my Mom Feb. 24, 2016 so I am coming up on one year. I can't imagine the hurt of losing a Mom could be any worse than what I've experienced but I guess there are circumstances where it certainly could. My Mom and I were not arguing at all and I still felt guilty for a long time. I was her Medical Power of Attorney and had to make a lot of decisions when she got really sick in the hospital. I will always second guess those decisions but ultimately I now realize that her death was not my fault and i could not have prevented it. No more than you could have prevented your mom's death. There is no way you could have known what was going to happen. When God call us home, he calls us home. Try to focus on all of the wonderful memories you have with your Mom. Coming to this site was a great help for me. I don't feel like I'm the only person going through grief. I have learned from many of the comments here and they help me so much. I hope they will help you also. The book that David mentioned below was recommended to me by a grief counselor that I saw (only once). Recognizing the stages of grief has been helpful to me also. It helps to put things into perspective. May God bless you and give you peace and comfort and understanding. Be easy on yourself, especially now. 

Comment by Shellie on January 25, 2017 at 10:40am
On 20 of dec my dad had drop me and my hubby and daughter at the airport. We were going to go and see my inlaw he hadn't had a christmas with them for 5 yrs so we were excitied about seeing them..
My dad asked if he could use my and my hubby car while we were gone..i said they could which to me was to use in the local area

My dad had a chance for a job interview for trucking which the interview was out of utah we lived in idaho. My dad decided to take my car . he didnt think i mind but when my hubby and i found out our car was in utah we were upset
On the chrstmas eve i got the worse call from my brother that i could ever get. He told me that mom was killed in a car wreck
Dad got the job and he told mom to take the car home. She got 17 miles from home and hit black ice. She was heading west bound on a major freeway and she ended up going through medrain and into east bound lane. She hit a semi head on. She died on inpact
My mom was a good driver and she doesnt speed or so i didnt want to believe she was gone. How when i just talk the night before..to me i guess always thought accident that bad was people doing stupid stuff like drinking and driving speeding but mom never did those stuff.was it something that was said the night before when we were fighting that made it happen
I wanted my car back but it wasnt worth losing my mom..I've learned a hard lession dont drive if your fighting make sure you made up before driving and dont take your love one for granted..i feel so guilty and sad. The last thing my mom said was to my hubby he had it on speaker sorry sir car is coming home now..i want her to know I'm not mad about the car I'm upset she gone sorry for venting
 

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