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Hello, I'm new here. He had a heart attack while with me, I had to call the wife to tell her what happened but denied that I was the other woman. I had to grieve on my own. There was one other person that new about our affair but now has turned his back on me. I don't know if he is still alive or have passed. I kept our affair a secret for 20 years and I don't what that secret revealed now. What happens next? I'm sure the wife will find out, there are phone records and I'm not sure if he deleted our text messages. I deal with the aftermath on my own, I'm also worried she will go after me "legally". She knows all my information from the 911 and EMT notes.
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Permalink Reply by Krista L on -
Wow, 20 years! That is a long time to be together. I am so sorry for your loss. You could check the obituaries in the paper from his home town. I had to do that for a little over a year after my guy stopped talking to me because his wife found out. He was so sick he couldn't hide anymore. So if you check once a week you will know if he has passed away. We stopped communicating in January 2015 and he died March 2017. It is the pits mourning all alone and I so understand. I hated not being able to go to his funeral or grieve for him openly. My guys wife had all my info too but she has not come after me legally. I don't think that happens very often because if she did then she would be admitting there was something wrong with her marriage and she would be embarrassed to let people know. I am sending a friend request in case you want to talk more.
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