Hello, I'm new here. He had a heart attack while with me, I had to call the wife to tell her what happened but denied that I was the other woman. I had to grieve on my own. There was one other person that new about our affair but now has turned his back on me. I don't know if he is still alive or have passed. I kept our affair a secret for 20 years and I don't what that secret revealed now. What happens next? I'm sure the wife will find out, there are phone records and I'm not sure if he deleted our text messages. I deal with the aftermath on my own, I'm also worried she will go after me "legally". She knows all my information from the 911 and EMT notes.

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Wow, 20 years! That is a long time to be together. I am so sorry for your loss. You could check the obituaries in the paper from his home town. I had to do that for a little over a year after my guy stopped talking to me because his wife found out. He was so sick he couldn't hide anymore. So if you check once a week you will know if he has passed away. We stopped communicating in January 2015 and he died March 2017. It is the pits mourning all alone and I so understand. I hated not being able to go to his funeral or grieve for him openly. My guys wife had all my info too but she has not come after me legally. I don't think that happens very often because if she did then she would be admitting there was something wrong with her marriage and she would be embarrassed to let people know. I am sending a friend request in case you want to talk more.

Thank you Krista for reaching out. His friend just contacted me today to let me know that they're taking him off life support today. The past 2 weeks, I was just numb and not quite sure how to react but after the update from his friend tears just started pouring.

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