What would you do if you could have your lost loved one back for just five minutes?

Hi, I'm new to this site and would love to share my new project inspired by the loss of my mom 24 years ago - www.yourjustfiveminutes.com.

Just Five Minutes was created to help those dealing with grief reconnect to their lost loved one, either by dreaming the impossible, or by simply reading other peoples' words who may be experiencing a similar sense of loss as you.

It asks one question: 

'What would you do if... came back to you for just five minutes? Imagine a door in front of you opens, they walk through it, and then five minutes later they have to go back through the door and disappear forever.'

Please see www.yourjustfiveminutes.com/your-jfm/ for my first and hugely valued contributer! Please let me know if you would like to contribute your Just Five Minutes. Thanks so much, Madeleine

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noy let go but i no ther is afrer lifess coz thy can vist us is m ush is thy need 2 esplyyy wen we need thm 

Thank you - I totally agree. They never really leave us.

Madeleine, what would I do if I could have my husband back for just five minutes? My first reaction would be to run into his arms, hug him and then make mad passionate love like we did so many times and then I would ask him if I could take the pills I have in reserve so I could join him where he was.  I would like him to tell me it would be ok because I want to leave here.  I want relief from the battle in my brain. I want to be touched by him.  All the time........forever.

I am so exhausted trying to stay alive and I just want his ok to say it would be alright to stop but first and foremost I want to feel him again......close by.......within my sphere of reality.  Please please let me have five minutes...... 

Hi Morgan, I'm so very sorry for your loss and heartbreak. It makes me wonder if asking people to write to their lost one on my website is just too much for many. I really hope people's words can make readers feel less alone in their grief as I felt desperately lonely when I lost my mum as I was only 22. I realize it's not for everyone though and I am sorry if it was painful for you to write about in response to my post. Thank you for responding and take care.

Pain is relative.  As others have experienced and written about on this site it isn't as though your asking to write what would we do if we had our loved one back for just five minutes is going to make the pain any less or any more.  Its there regardless.  We cope, we manage, we do the best we can.  

But I'm with Bluebird on this one.  Knowing how this pain of missing him is,  if that five minutes was up and he went back through that door there isn't anything that would stop me from going with him either.  Nothing.  No hat, no coat, just gone.  Its simply that unbearable to be here without the love of our lives.  It just is.

I would hug and kiss my husband, and tell him how much and how deeply I love him. I would smell his skin, I would touch his face and his hair and his arms, I would listen to his voice as he told me how much and how deeply he loves me. I would never let him go, and when he went back through that door, I would go with him, and nothing in this universe or any other would be able to stop me.

Thank you and Morgan both for your responses. I can only try to imagine what you are feeling having lost your husbands but from my own personal experience I do understand how it feels natural to go with the person you lose. Thank you again and take care.

Hug them as tight as I could and never let go

I like to focus on a permanent reunion.

My beliefs encourage me to look forward to seeing my loved ones again....right here on earth (only a Paradise then) where we will all be without any more sickness, death,sorrow, or pain.

This hope for the future sustains me and helps me look to future with hope. 

Dennis,

can you tell me what you mean by being reunited here on earth?

Virginia g

Sorry for the delay

My belief comes from study of the Bible.    Did you know that there are 9 resurrections in the Bible?  Everyone of them describes a wonderful reunion. One of them says that the family was “beside themselves in great ecstasy.” 8 of those reunions happened right here on earth. 

I also believe that the Bible teaches that God will establish paradise on earth and then cause a resurrection of all those who have died so that we can all experience that “great ecstasy” ourselves...right here on earth.

Below are the scriptural accounts of those 9 resurrections. 

1 Kings 17:17-24

2 Kings 4:32-37

2 Kings 13:20, 21

Matthew 28:5-7

Luke 7:11-17

Luke 8:40-56

John 11:38-44

Acts 9:36-42

Acts 20:7-12.

Thank you for the detailed answer Dennis

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