STUPID things people say... " Vent Here " - Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-29T01:24:13Zhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topics/stupid-things-people-say?groupUrl=missingmysonordaughter&feed=yes&xn_auth=noKelly, when people say they a…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-03-11:2054931:Comment:3208052018-03-11T07:40:54.565ZRobert Matthewshttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/RobertMatthews
<p>Kelly, when people say they are sorry, they simply don't know what to say. They have never experienced what you have. They never want to. They are struck with fear of the same happening to them and the gut wrenching imagining of that experience to them, or to you by proxy. I was once told, before the funeral for my son, that those who say "I'm sorry" feel your pain, but cannot bear very much of it and cannot express it in any other way. So they carry a tiny amount of your pain for you. It is…</p>
<p>Kelly, when people say they are sorry, they simply don't know what to say. They have never experienced what you have. They never want to. They are struck with fear of the same happening to them and the gut wrenching imagining of that experience to them, or to you by proxy. I was once told, before the funeral for my son, that those who say "I'm sorry" feel your pain, but cannot bear very much of it and cannot express it in any other way. So they carry a tiny amount of your pain for you. It is the only thing they can do to try to help.</p> My mom asked me how I was doi…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-03-11:2054931:Comment:3207072018-03-11T07:32:33.327ZRobert Matthewshttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/RobertMatthews
<p>My mom asked me how I was doing on the morning of my sons funeral. I said that this was the second worst day of my life, (the worst being discovering my son dead and attempting CPR.) My MOM said, "well, he's already dead." I have no idea why that came out of her mouth. I Told her that I was burying my son today, and that made it the second worst. She did realize the absolute stupidity that she had spouted about two seconds earlier. I saw it in her face. I still can't believe it. My own…</p>
<p>My mom asked me how I was doing on the morning of my sons funeral. I said that this was the second worst day of my life, (the worst being discovering my son dead and attempting CPR.) My MOM said, "well, he's already dead." I have no idea why that came out of her mouth. I Told her that I was burying my son today, and that made it the second worst. She did realize the absolute stupidity that she had spouted about two seconds earlier. I saw it in her face. I still can't believe it. My own mom.</p>
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<p>My sister flew in from California for the funeral. She kept going on about her two kids. We have one two year old and lost our 17 day old son. She kept saying things like, "As soon as (older sister) tries something, (younger sister) has to try it." "I'm so glad my kids love being sisters." She said multiple things like this. She has a doctorate and is a counselor. You would think she would have some idea.</p> I hate when people say I'm so…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-11-09:2054931:Comment:3153812017-11-09T15:26:24.556ZKellie Hullhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/KellieHull
I hate when people say I'm sorry. What are you sorry for. Just don't say anything at all.
I hate when people say I'm sorry. What are you sorry for. Just don't say anything at all. Wow, that is one of the stupi…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-09-22:2054931:Comment:3134142017-09-22T17:26:05.077ZPattyhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/PattyValora
<p>Wow, that is one of the stupidest things I have ever heard. </p>
<p>Wow, that is one of the stupidest things I have ever heard. </p> All these years later ... And…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-09-22:2054931:Comment:3131762017-09-22T05:01:07.185ZKarhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Karen
<p>All these years later ... And when I do leave my house (as I have become so recluse)</p>
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<p>I still hear insensitive comments just last week - I was told that not only was this gods plan I agreed to it before I was ever born. </p>
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<p>Where do people come up with this stuff? </p>
<p>All these years later ... And when I do leave my house (as I have become so recluse)</p>
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<p>I still hear insensitive comments just last week - I was told that not only was this gods plan I agreed to it before I was ever born. </p>
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<p>Where do people come up with this stuff? </p> The only ones who understand…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-07-14:2054931:Comment:3091792017-07-14T21:48:37.776ZMona Willshttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MonaWills
<p>The only ones who understand my pain are people like you who've been through this and are still managing to breath in and out.</p>
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<p>The only ones who understand my pain are people like you who've been through this and are still managing to breath in and out.</p>
<p></p> Don't blame you ONE BIT
tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-07-14:2054931:Comment:3090942017-07-14T21:46:36.704ZMona Willshttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MonaWills
<p>Don't blame you ONE BIT</p>
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<p>Don't blame you ONE BIT</p>
<p></p> "i understand your pain"---an…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-03-27:2054931:Comment:3028142017-03-27T01:50:34.034ZB.Windsorhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/BillieWindsor
<p>"i understand your pain"---and either they don't have any children of their own or their children are safe and sound. *sigh</p>
<p>"i understand your pain"---and either they don't have any children of their own or their children are safe and sound. *sigh</p> Cindy, I was actually asked t…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-07-04:2054931:Comment:2831172016-07-04T00:38:07.258ZPattyhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/PattyValora
<p>Cindy, I was actually asked that at least 3 times. It was really hard to believe that people would say such a thing at the most terrible time of my life. It shocked me so much I didn't know what to say.</p>
<p>Cindy, I was actually asked that at least 3 times. It was really hard to believe that people would say such a thing at the most terrible time of my life. It shocked me so much I didn't know what to say.</p> Wow! Patty, that is the most…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-07-03:2054931:Comment:2826062016-07-03T19:50:22.017ZCindyhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Cindy413
Wow! Patty, that is the most STUPID and MEAN comment ever! I hope no one ever says that to me because I'm sure I won't be able to hold myself back from returning meanness back!
Wow! Patty, that is the most STUPID and MEAN comment ever! I hope no one ever says that to me because I'm sure I won't be able to hold myself back from returning meanness back!