I am going on my fourth year without my wonderful Husband, my shrink has tried every drug she can think of for depression but none work. I find that if I take a codeine tablet I had left over from surgery really helps. Does anybody know of an opiate that would help me get over my grief. I don't think I can take this pain much longer. PLEASE HELP!!!!! 

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Hi my mother is the person I am mourning so it is not the same but I understand the need to numb yourself to the pain that you are feeling. it will be 4 years for me without my rock my beautiful mother this coming Feb. If you live in a state that allows marijuana you could try the edible kind. I don't live in a place where it is legal but on occasion have a chance to partake. Just a thought.  I'm sorry for all of us hurting from the pain of losing our beloved. I am still not over it. She left me in charge of her affairs and there is still so much to do it overwhelms me everyday. She was the buffer between my siblings and without her here I am having to help in her place. I wish I could just drive away and never look back.

Jean,

Thanks for sharing.

Linda
I don't know if this is true but my psychologist says grief cannot be medicated away. I don't think an opiate will help your grief go away but might give a couple hours of relief. However, addiction is a risk.
As Jean said, medical marijuana might help. I eat an edible (indica) at bed and it helps me sleep a bit. It is legal where I am.

We are voting for it in Florida again this year, hope it passes.

I would like some sleep, but my doc took my ambien away, and its been 10 months, but I still wake up looking for Kevin.

Ruthie,

I feel the doctors could care less of what we are going through.

I have been wondering how you all would respond to my suggestion. I highly "pun intended" recommend it to help with the pain we are all feeling. Also the doctors I have encountered trying to find a new GP are all in it for the money. I went to the same group of 4 doctors for over 40 years and cannot find any that come close to the care that I received from them. I am still looking for the right one. My brother called them "the Gatekeeper". I have one awesome doctor that I see for anxiety and depression. Thank God for decent doctors. Few and far between.

I take two Benadryl every night in order to sleep at all, except for the really bad nights, when I take a Lunesta (sleeping pill) instead. I also have a prescription for Xanax, to help with panic attacks.

The Benadryl / Lunesta allow me to get a bit of sleep, but nothing (no pill, no drug, nothing) will ever diminish my depression, because the reason for my depression -- the death of my beloved husband -- will never change.

It is very easy to become addicted to opiates, just bear that in mind.

I have had an experience that might be useful in this context, although it is not from an opiate medication and maybe will not help other people. I lost my soulmate suddenly eight months ago and have been pretty much crushed and useless since then, tearful, sleepless, unable to bear seeing people, and so on. However, I still have family responsibilities...my parents are elderly and my mother is also losing her memory, frail, etc. Exercise is the only thing advised by her physicians as being potentially helpful to the memory, so I bought a gentle stretching DVD for them when I went there to help out recently. The DVD idea turned out to be a mistake. Though it is slow and gentle it is still too complicated for my poor mother to follow -- just the idea of having it around created anxiety, which is a horrible part of not having a reliable memory, so I put it out of sight and took it back home. I had severe back pain for the first time in my life while I was there -- I thought probably from a combination of stress and the lack of normal physical activity over the last eight months. When I got home the problem persisted and I decided to try the stretching to see if it would help my back -- it did, but it seems like maybe it has also helped my grief experience. It could be just the psychological impact of doing something for myself every day, or maybe some different chemicals are being released in my brain, but I seem to feel more like myself. It is hard to explain. I am still grief stricken but that's okay, I expect to feel that way because I've lost the love of my life and that has not changed and will not change. The difference is that I feel more sane and like my brain is working more normally -- I have been feeling like my mind is not right and I still don't feel normal, just better than I have been feeling. This effect could also be just coming from the passage of time, but it does seem to have started when I began doing the stretching exercises regularly each day (more or less). Sorry to ramble but hoping this might be a bit helpful to someone.
I can relate. So many Doctors..they will write a script for anything. But I finally had a psych tell me "there is no pill that will help with Chronic Grief disorder"
I find it so strange that doctors felt the need to name this pain "chronic grief disorder". It is chronic, and it is grief, but in my opinion it is the normal reaction to having your life destroyed, to having half of your soul torn from you. Fuck. How else could we be??!??

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