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Hello Grace and everyone. You are right about all the "what ifs" and feeling beaten that we could not save our children. This is one part of life that I could have done without, I never thought that I would ever know this kind of pain, it's always "someone else", now we are all the "someone else". In a perfect world, we would all live forever, happy and peaceful, unfortunately, that is not the reality. The comment that I hate the most, is "these things happen for REASON"!!.......there is no reason, it's NOT "ok", it's simply unacceptable. The other comment that is in a close tie with that one is " he's in a BETTER place"!!!..........what could be "better" than my son being here with me and all of his family and friends? He's supposed to be here, enjoying his young life and learning from mistakes. He should be here with all of his friends that I always see hanging out and laughing.......some of them turn away or pretend like they don't see me becausethey don't know what to say to me, some of them are not his true friends. They have no idea what a small comfort it would be to me if they mention him to me, it would be a reassurance that they haven't forgotten my baby. I know that I shouldn't take it personal and I don't always because I know that they don't want to say the "wrong" thing to me. This is just all so hard and so painful that no one could possibly understand unless they are experiencing this kind of hell.
thanks to all for listening, again and again.
Latisha, I am sending you a strong hug. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter in the accident. Please know that we parents always blame ourselves, but accidents are accidents. The only thing that helps me in the loss of my daughter is to try to remember that she is always with me in my heart, and that love is eternal. Your daughter is always with you. God bless you.