Please share your Story = the Loss of your Son or Daughter - Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-29T13:58:36Zhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topics/please-share-your-story-the?groupUrl=missingmysonordaughter&commentId=2054931%3AComment%3A291885&groupId=2054931%3AGroup%3A6647&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI lost my son Aug 19 10 days…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2022-01-17:2054931:Comment:4347562022-01-17T20:56:19.560ZJulie McKinneyhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/JulieMcKinney
<p>I lost my son Aug 19 10 days shy of his 33rd birthday. Matthew was an easy baby, wonderful, sweet little boy and he grew up to be a good person. He lead a normal life.... going to Community college, working at PISD as a mentor etc. When he turned 21, he was diagnosed with Wilson's disease. This is a genetic disorder that comes from two recessive parents. Neither myself or his dad had any knowledge of this in our family trees. It is a metabolism disorder that causes heavy metal poisoning of…</p>
<p>I lost my son Aug 19 10 days shy of his 33rd birthday. Matthew was an easy baby, wonderful, sweet little boy and he grew up to be a good person. He lead a normal life.... going to Community college, working at PISD as a mentor etc. When he turned 21, he was diagnosed with Wilson's disease. This is a genetic disorder that comes from two recessive parents. Neither myself or his dad had any knowledge of this in our family trees. It is a metabolism disorder that causes heavy metal poisoning of copper. Normally, the copper accumulates in the liver and most people get a liver transplant and survice and lead normal, productive lives. However, Matthew's copper went to the base of his brain and caused neurological issues. Over the next 10 years, he lost his ability to walk, use his hands 100%, his lower teeth, his ability to swallow and be able to speak. We had to make the ungodly decision to put him in a nursing home because he required 24 hr care. I miss him every day and I can't seem to get past him leaving. I want to be able to feel like he is so blessed to be in heaven and no longer in pain, but the heart break is overwhelming. I am reaching out to see if anyone can give me advice so I can do something productive and positive in his honor.</p> I haven't posted in awhile. M…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-06-17:2054931:Comment:3238082018-06-17T17:43:16.781Ztoni m dicarlohttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/tonimdicarlo
<p>I haven't posted in awhile. May 26 was the 7 year date of my sons death and June 2 would have been his 23rd birthday, Gabriel was kind thoughtful and a pure joy to everyone he met. this life and the grieving have been very cyclical and when I feel the sadness and fear lift it comes back without much warning. when holidays approach I say I am going to be ok this time but the physical a and mental stress slowly come back. I am so grateful and thank God every day for letting me have him and in…</p>
<p>I haven't posted in awhile. May 26 was the 7 year date of my sons death and June 2 would have been his 23rd birthday, Gabriel was kind thoughtful and a pure joy to everyone he met. this life and the grieving have been very cyclical and when I feel the sadness and fear lift it comes back without much warning. when holidays approach I say I am going to be ok this time but the physical a and mental stress slowly come back. I am so grateful and thank God every day for letting me have him and in the last couple of years I remember the funny kooky stuff he did and laugh out loud and I feel the weight on my chest lifted. Gabes dog Emma died 6 months ago at 15 and I love the thought of then running and laughing like they did for years. I love you peapod.</p> Hi Lori. I received an email…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-06-14:2054931:Comment:3235802018-06-14T23:59:45.262ZAmmyhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Ann
<p>Hi Lori. I received an email that you joined this group and since I haven't been here in quite qwhile I decided to check on the group. I am surprised that there has not been any activity. WhenI came here almost 8 years ago this group was very active. I only check in a couple of times a year now as most of the moms that were here when I started have left.<br></br>Try posting on the main wall by introducing yourself. I'm sure you will get a response.<br></br>I'm very sorry you have had to come to…</p>
<p>Hi Lori. I received an email that you joined this group and since I haven't been here in quite qwhile I decided to check on the group. I am surprised that there has not been any activity. WhenI came here almost 8 years ago this group was very active. I only check in a couple of times a year now as most of the moms that were here when I started have left.<br/>Try posting on the main wall by introducing yourself. I'm sure you will get a response.<br/>I'm very sorry you have had to come to this site. I know what it's like, but do the best you can. It's a lifetime journey.<br/>My son's birthday is today so it has been a rough week but it does get kinder.<br/>If you need someone to talk to leave a comment on the wall or on my page and I will try and get back to you.<br/>Hugs to you.</p> Is this still an active group?tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2018-06-12:2054931:Comment:3237622018-06-12T13:44:36.842ZLori G.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LoriGoertz
<p>Is this still an active group?</p>
<p>Is this still an active group?</p> I lost my son Dalton, June 16…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-07-20:2054931:Comment:3089042017-07-20T02:21:03.498ZPearl Irenehttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/PearlIrene
I lost my son Dalton, June 16, 2017. He was riding his Motorcycle, lost control and hit a concrete light pole. He died instantly. He was quite a character, one of a kind. He was the warrior for the underdog, a sponge for any type of knowledge (though dyslexic and basically illiterate), up for any prank, loved children and animals. He was always bringing home strays, whether animal or human. It seems his life was just coming together. He had a dream job at Harley Davidson, and a new bike. He…
I lost my son Dalton, June 16, 2017. He was riding his Motorcycle, lost control and hit a concrete light pole. He died instantly. He was quite a character, one of a kind. He was the warrior for the underdog, a sponge for any type of knowledge (though dyslexic and basically illiterate), up for any prank, loved children and animals. He was always bringing home strays, whether animal or human. It seems his life was just coming together. He had a dream job at Harley Davidson, and a new bike. He loved that bike. He had made amends with his big brother, they had never gotten along before. They were even living together. He had a new girlfriend and they were serious. He was getting the opportunity to try his hand at stand up comedy. Everything was coming together. And now he is gone. Why? I miss him terribly.<br />
I am not a stranger to sadness, but this is beyond what I had previously experienced. I wonder if there will be a day when I wake up and not be in utter despair. Will I ever experience joy again? I live in fear that my youngest son will die from an overdose. In fact I was sure it would happen at one time. I planned his funeral in my head. When the police showed up to tell me about Dalton's death, I assumed they were there about Cole. They were always there for Cole. Cole is clean at the moment (5 months), but it only takes one mistake. Cole has actually been my rock during all of the planning of viewing and memorial. He even delivered a beautiful eulogy he had written for his brother. He always idolized Dalton. Their father died several years ago, so they have all endured their share of losses. Praying for healing and peace. Mona, I am so sorry for the l…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-07-15:2054931:Comment:3091022017-07-15T17:18:37.269ZPattyhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/PattyValora
<p>Mona, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. We lost our daughter as well because of a drunk driver. She is our only child. My life basically ended that day. Like Rhiannon, Caitlin was the passenger. In our case it was a motorcycle, not a car. She was 20 when it happened and away at college. It took 2 years to go to trial. We offered 5 years which the driver turned down. He ended up getting 90 days shock time and 5 years probation with electronic alcohol monitoring.…</p>
<p>Mona, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. We lost our daughter as well because of a drunk driver. She is our only child. My life basically ended that day. Like Rhiannon, Caitlin was the passenger. In our case it was a motorcycle, not a car. She was 20 when it happened and away at college. It took 2 years to go to trial. We offered 5 years which the driver turned down. He ended up getting 90 days shock time and 5 years probation with electronic alcohol monitoring. It was such a slap in the face. 5 years for taking a life. I pray your trial and outcome goes better than ours. By better I mean the driver gets more jail time, of course. Be prepared because whatever you have heard or seen so far may pale in comparison to what you may hear or see at the trial. I thought I had seen and heard it all but there was more. It was truly terrible to hear those things when they are talking about your child. Also, people lied on the stand to cover their sorry asses. In my victim impact statement I said that "I might as well have been on the back of that motorcycle with Caitlin because when you killed her you killed me too." I still feel that way after 7 years. I will be praying for you.</p> Just before midnight on 12/12…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-07-14:2054931:Comment:3090902017-07-14T20:53:08.390ZMona Willshttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MonaWills
<p>Just before midnight on 12/12/15 we lost our 17 year old daughter to a drunk driver. Rhiannon and her friend were picked up by some boys at the bowling alley that night. They were taken to a party where the boys purchased extra alcohol to get them drunk so that they could take them up to a home where the parents were gone. We know the intentions were not good. They never made it. The driver was nearly 3 times the legal limit that night. Our daughter was the only fatality which, in…</p>
<p>Just before midnight on 12/12/15 we lost our 17 year old daughter to a drunk driver. Rhiannon and her friend were picked up by some boys at the bowling alley that night. They were taken to a party where the boys purchased extra alcohol to get them drunk so that they could take them up to a home where the parents were gone. We know the intentions were not good. They never made it. The driver was nearly 3 times the legal limit that night. Our daughter was the only fatality which, in itself, is a miracle. </p>
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<p>There are no words to describe our loss, as I'm sure you all know too well. We hope to finally get to court August 7th,8th and 9th. We've had one trial date after another postponed. Meanwhile the adult that did this (yes the driver was an adult), has been out living his life with no significant punishment up to this date. We offered him a measly 15 years, 10 suspended, 13 months of intensive treatment and 10 years of parole and he turned that down, so now I hope they nail him for at least 10 years in prison. </p>
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<p>Yes, I'm still angry but mostly I just miss my daughter. She was such a wonderful girl. She was so kind and at her service there were hundreds of classmates. In the receiving line we heard over and over again about how sweet she was, how she stood up for the bullied, how she told girls how beautiful they were just when that's what they really needed to hear. She was just a wonderful girl</p> Hi Everyone, My name is Karen…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-04-04:2054931:Comment:3031042017-04-04T16:02:01.856ZKaren Schellhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/KarenSchell
<p>Hi Everyone, My name is Karen too, :) First of all i want to say my heart goes out to all on the loss of our children. I am a bereaved mother and a widow as well.</p>
<p>But my precious son died in 1995, so a very long time ago. He was 23 when he died, and i had him when i was still a teenager. He was killed by a drunk driver. It shattered my world as i knew it, and i love and miss him everyday.</p>
<p>I lost my daughter almost 5 years ago, it will be 5 yrs. in May, and she died of substance…</p>
<p>Hi Everyone, My name is Karen too, :) First of all i want to say my heart goes out to all on the loss of our children. I am a bereaved mother and a widow as well.</p>
<p>But my precious son died in 1995, so a very long time ago. He was 23 when he died, and i had him when i was still a teenager. He was killed by a drunk driver. It shattered my world as i knew it, and i love and miss him everyday.</p>
<p>I lost my daughter almost 5 years ago, it will be 5 yrs. in May, and she died of substance abuse. A very different kind of grief to what i experienced when my son died.</p>
<p>She was my one and only beautiful girl and have two other surviving boys. We cope, but somedays i don't know how we have got through it all. My children are my heart and half my heart is with my children that died. Maybe one day we will know why?</p> i can definitely understand y…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-03-28:2054931:Comment:3026052017-03-28T10:26:22.292ZB.Windsorhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/BillieWindsor
<p>i can definitely understand your feelings, Conni K. Most of my days are spent finding it hard to believe that this is even real....</p>
<p>i can definitely understand your feelings, Conni K. Most of my days are spent finding it hard to believe that this is even real....</p> Thank you, Connie K. For now…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-03-28:2054931:Comment:3026042017-03-28T10:20:11.055ZB.Windsorhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/BillieWindsor
<p>Thank you, Connie K. For now, it's still unreal....and hard to believe that she's gone. But, i'm trying to keep going.</p>
<p>Thank you, Connie K. For now, it's still unreal....and hard to believe that she's gone. But, i'm trying to keep going.</p>