For the last three weeks I have been unable to feel anything but anger and numbness. I feel like I am slowly dying inside. Everything annoys me. I don't want to be around friends or family. I have lost 10 pounds. I don't know how to end this. My finance was killed in an auto accident. He was in a coma and eight days later he died. I cried like someone ripped my heart out of my chest and now I am angry and numb.

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I am so sorry. I understand feeling angry and numb, as my husband's death has affected me in the same way. I also find that everything annoys me, and it's partly because of that that I often have a hard time being around friends or family.  I don't have any advice, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

Thank you bluebird,

It helps to know that I am not crazy. Things annoy me to the point I have to stay away from people. I don't want to talk to people in person. I just want to be alone. I don't feel that I am me anymore. I am someone else. Sometimes I feel like I am being punished. Sometimes I feel like I am holding on by a thread. So thank you. It helps that I am not alone when I am alone.

All perfectly valid reactions in response to your fiancé's death, including the part about not feeling that you are you anymore (I feel that way, too). Hopefully participating on this website will help you a bit -- there are definitely others here besides you and I who have lost a spouse/partner.  You may also want to consider speaking with a therapist or spiritual advisor -- I haven't done that, but some people do find it helpful.

I will be speaking to rwo next week. I just don't want to be view as crazy. Even thought I feel that way. I know I'm emotionally all over the place. Thank you for talking to me. Seems like it's hard to get help. Please don't leave.

No therapist would view you as crazy for feeling as you do.  You might want to see one who specializes in grief, if neither of the two you already have set up do (and if they don't work out for you). 

Of course you're all over the place emotionally -- how could you not be, given what happened? It would be more surprising if you weren't, really.

No need to thank me -- those of us in this shitty situation have to do what we can to help each other. I won't leave this site, but I'm not on it very often anymore...but I do receive an e-mail notification when anyone responds to a thread in which I've posted, so if you post here again I'll get that e-mail to let me know.  Feel free to also visit my thread if you like, which I started about a year after my husband died -- it's located here

Thank you. I have to thank you because it helps to talk to someone who understands. I am glad I can contact you because right now you are my life line. Yesterday was horrible. When I think I am handling this, I loose it, I get really angry and then I just sit in a chair and stare into space. This is s horrible state of being. Going to stay in contact with you. Thank you.

Absolutely! Of course you can post in this thread (or in my thread, or in any other thread) at any time; also feel free to send me a message via this site if you want to. {{{{hugs}}}}

Thank you


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