No Hope - Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-29T08:53:07Zhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topics/no-hope?feed=yes&xn_auth=noThank you so much for your th…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-14:2054931:Comment:2929712016-11-14T18:17:55.901ZLinda Engberghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LindaEngberg
<p>Thank you so much for your thoughts, many things you have told me have been discussed with my therapist such as helping others or volunteer, these things do nothing for me. I want to live again a full life my husband and I had together, it was 24/7 everyday, and we always enjoyed each one, but this will never happen again in my life. I am just waiting to die to join him.</p>
<p>My family always told me we are too close but that was better than being far apart like most of their marriages…</p>
<p>Thank you so much for your thoughts, many things you have told me have been discussed with my therapist such as helping others or volunteer, these things do nothing for me. I want to live again a full life my husband and I had together, it was 24/7 everyday, and we always enjoyed each one, but this will never happen again in my life. I am just waiting to die to join him.</p>
<p>My family always told me we are too close but that was better than being far apart like most of their marriages are or were.</p> Dear Linda,
I have thought ab…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-14:2054931:Comment:2929642016-11-14T13:02:24.339ZBrenda Annhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/BrendaAnn
<p>Dear Linda,</p>
<p>I have thought about your post all weekend to try to figure out how to tell you how much I want to lift some of your pain off your heart and help you bare the load. Sure enough, there is no pill or words that will make the pain instantly disappear. I agree that there is no hope for a pill that will magically relieve the pain. In the Bible, death is described as “the last enemy.” (…</p>
<p>Dear Linda,</p>
<p>I have thought about your post all weekend to try to figure out how to tell you how much I want to lift some of your pain off your heart and help you bare the load. Sure enough, there is no pill or words that will make the pain instantly disappear. I agree that there is no hope for a pill that will magically relieve the pain. In the Bible, death is described as “the last enemy.” (<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/1-corinthians/15/#v46015026" target="_blank">1 Corinthians 15:26</a>) It breaks into our lives with irresistible force, and robs us of our loved one. The way you feel is natural and the pain unbearable.</p>
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<p id="p4" class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener">There is no shortage of advice on this subject. Not all of it, however, is helpful. For instance, you may find that some will advise you not to cry or show your feelings in any way. Others may push you to do the opposite and expose all your feelings. There is a more balanced view, one that is supported by modern research. Mental-health experts acknowledge that tearfulness is a normal part of grieving. And grieving may, in time, help you to move on despite the enormity of your loss. Suppressing grief, however, may do more harm than good. Think of Jesus, for example. At the death of his dear friend Lazarus, Jesus openly wept, even though he had the power to bring the dead back to life!—<a class="jsBibleLink jsHasModalListener jsNoScroll" href="https://www.jw.org/en/publications/bible/nwt/books/john/11/#v43011033-v43011035" target="_blank">John 11:33-35</a></p>
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<p class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener">Some bereavement counselors advise those who are struggling with grief to get involved in helping others or to volunteer their time in some community service. Doing so can bring joy and may ease a person’s grief. Still never forget that you must grieve in your own way and in your own time. I will keep you in my prayers and will listen to you anytime you want to talk.</p>
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<p class="p4 disableActiveState jsHasHighlightListener">Brenda</p> Anne,
I would never tell you…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-14:2054931:Comment:2929612016-11-14T12:13:43.629ZLinda Engberghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LindaEngberg
<p>Anne,</p>
<p>I would never tell you to F off, we are all in the same boat, i have been going to see my Psychiatrist and therapist now for 4 years, they are the only ones I can talk to, my family thinks I am just feeling sorry for myself, it hurt me deeply. I just miss my Husband so bad, the heartache won't go away. </p>
<p>Anne,</p>
<p>I would never tell you to F off, we are all in the same boat, i have been going to see my Psychiatrist and therapist now for 4 years, they are the only ones I can talk to, my family thinks I am just feeling sorry for myself, it hurt me deeply. I just miss my Husband so bad, the heartache won't go away. </p> I agree with Anne. Don't worr…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-14:2054931:Comment:2929542016-11-14T00:37:44.100Zbluebirdhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Kristina68
<p>I agree with Anne. Don't worry about posting here "too much"; there's no such thing. Post as much as you want or need to.</p>
<p>I agree with Anne. Don't worry about posting here "too much"; there's no such thing. Post as much as you want or need to.</p> That's about it.tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-13:2054931:Comment:2927972016-11-13T22:13:10.283ZLinda Engberghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LindaEngberg
<p>That's about it.</p>
<p>That's about it.</p> Yes.tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-13:2054931:Comment:2929522016-11-13T22:12:05.954ZLinda Engberghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LindaEngberg
<p>Yes.</p>
<p>Yes.</p> My doctor said the same thing…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-13:2054931:Comment:2929392016-11-13T16:43:03.091ZMichaelhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Michael749
My doctor said the same thing about pills and grief. I am at my wit's end. Nobody wants to hear this stuff so I am on here. If im posting too much, i apologize. But only you folks understand.
My doctor said the same thing about pills and grief. I am at my wit's end. Nobody wants to hear this stuff so I am on here. If im posting too much, i apologize. But only you folks understand. Thanks for your reply Bluebir…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-13:2054931:Comment:2930332016-11-13T12:52:43.806ZLinda Engberghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LindaEngberg
<p>Thanks for your reply Bluebird, next visit I am going to ask her to stop all the pills I am taking as she stated there is not a pill for grief. </p>
<p>Thanks for your reply Bluebird, next visit I am going to ask her to stop all the pills I am taking as she stated there is not a pill for grief. </p> I'm right there with you, Lin…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-12:2054931:Comment:2929222016-11-12T22:01:36.613Zbluebirdhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Kristina68
<p>I'm right there with you, Linda, as far as how you feel.</p>
<p>I haven't even tried taking an anti-depressant. There would be no point to that for me, since the <em>reason </em>for my depression (my husband's death) is not going to change, and it is a completely valid reason to be severely depressed. The medications for depression and panic attacks are often the same, and in the past I have taken (at different times) both Zoloft and Prozac, which I did find helped with panic attacks, but…</p>
<p>I'm right there with you, Linda, as far as how you feel.</p>
<p>I haven't even tried taking an anti-depressant. There would be no point to that for me, since the <em>reason </em>for my depression (my husband's death) is not going to change, and it is a completely valid reason to be severely depressed. The medications for depression and panic attacks are often the same, and in the past I have taken (at different times) both Zoloft and Prozac, which I did find helped with panic attacks, but there's simply no point in me trying them now for depression.</p> Hi Pamela,
Thanks for replyin…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-11-11:2054931:Comment:2925892016-11-11T21:26:58.624ZLinda Engberghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LindaEngberg
<p>Hi Pamela,</p>
<p>Thanks for replying, my family really doesn't know how much I hurt, they think I am just fine, I can't even discuss my feelings with them as they are uncomfortable with it. I have tried God but no answer from him either. I just wish I would hurry up and did.</p>
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<p>Hi Pamela,</p>
<p>Thanks for replying, my family really doesn't know how much I hurt, they think I am just fine, I can't even discuss my feelings with them as they are uncomfortable with it. I have tried God but no answer from him either. I just wish I would hurry up and did.</p>
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