Newbie seeking support - Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-28T23:37:06Zhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topics/newbie-seeking-support?groupUrl=losingsomeonetocancer&commentId=2054931%3AComment%3A109726&groupId=2054931%3AGroup%3A8080&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI'm sorry for the loss of you…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-11-17:2054931:Comment:1359102012-11-17T17:19:30.072ZLMNhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaMarieNicholson
<p>I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. I too have endured that horrific battle you speak of as I watched my younger sister waste away from gastric cancer - she died this past August; she only survived 8 months after they diagnosed her.</p>
<p>I agree with the sentiments echoed below about being kind to yourself. I try to do the same but I too am finding it very difficult to cope and at moments feel as if literally I can't take another moment of the pain and sorrow that seems to have…</p>
<p>I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. I too have endured that horrific battle you speak of as I watched my younger sister waste away from gastric cancer - she died this past August; she only survived 8 months after they diagnosed her.</p>
<p>I agree with the sentiments echoed below about being kind to yourself. I try to do the same but I too am finding it very difficult to cope and at moments feel as if literally I can't take another moment of the pain and sorrow that seems to have engulfed my life.</p>
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<p>I do have a firm belief in God and Jesus Christ and they have been my comfort.</p> Maura, thank you for this sup…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-06-01:2054931:Comment:1140762012-06-01T22:08:39.905ZDave Frankhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DaveFrank
<p>Maura, thank you for this superb advice, it meant alot to me:)</p>
<p>Maura, thank you for this superb advice, it meant alot to me:)</p> That was beautiful; You just…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-06-01:2054931:Comment:1141502012-06-01T00:32:27.102ZMaura Simmshttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MauraSimms
<p>That was beautiful; You just was reminded me of the soft waxy skin when the life drained out in passing. It was quite exquisite and beautiful though; like a butterfly. I am mostly fun too, what the heck$%^&*. I guess we can't let this ruin everything but I don't understand why this has to happen at all.</p>
<p>That was beautiful; You just was reminded me of the soft waxy skin when the life drained out in passing. It was quite exquisite and beautiful though; like a butterfly. I am mostly fun too, what the heck$%^&*. I guess we can't let this ruin everything but I don't understand why this has to happen at all.</p> Everyone is different and the…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-05-27:2054931:Comment:1131312012-05-27T01:23:36.971ZMaura Simmshttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MauraSimms
<p>Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong; the only thing is we carry that awful shocking, I don't want to feel this way pain the same. I am very sorry this has to happen to us at one time or another; I found consolation in that a good friend told me that I was there for my husband to make his passing as comfortable as possible and to get the best care possible and i am sure that is what you did for your friend. You did a great thing and must forge on in your life; you served a…</p>
<p>Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong; the only thing is we carry that awful shocking, I don't want to feel this way pain the same. I am very sorry this has to happen to us at one time or another; I found consolation in that a good friend told me that I was there for my husband to make his passing as comfortable as possible and to get the best care possible and i am sure that is what you did for your friend. You did a great thing and must forge on in your life; you served a great purpose. In fact, I volunteer for a hospice now and that gives me a sense of giving back in my husband's honor. Don't feel anything you think or feel is wrong, its just a horrific shock to the brain and soul right now, so try to be zen and let the thoughts and feelings work through you and work out of you.</p> Hi friends, thanks for your p…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-05-24:2054931:Comment:1125472012-05-24T15:15:44.755ZDave Frankhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DaveFrank
<p>Hi friends, thanks for your post. I'm a month out from my best friend's funeral. Still every morning I wake to an emptiness in my soul, which I am coming to accept rather than try to "blast through it" or whatever. It seems to be God's will now to be in this state, it's better when I accept this somehow, I'm just feeling through this foreign territory. I have many moments of joy during the day despite the emptiness, and at times the pain just mysteriously lifts for awhile. It's all really…</p>
<p>Hi friends, thanks for your post. I'm a month out from my best friend's funeral. Still every morning I wake to an emptiness in my soul, which I am coming to accept rather than try to "blast through it" or whatever. It seems to be God's will now to be in this state, it's better when I accept this somehow, I'm just feeling through this foreign territory. I have many moments of joy during the day despite the emptiness, and at times the pain just mysteriously lifts for awhile. It's all really strange and not fun, I am usually an endless well of jokes, haven't made one in months..I am growing spiritually though for sure..this discussion here is helping, how are you guys doing?</p> Dave, Glad you had a better d…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-05-24:2054931:Comment:1124632012-05-24T04:15:24.822ZMary M.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/MaryM299
<p>Dave, Glad you had a better day today it gives me hope to read your post that this doom and gloom (pain and heartache) can have moments in time when a ray of sunlight shines through. Keep us posted. Take care</p>
<p>Dave, Glad you had a better day today it gives me hope to read your post that this doom and gloom (pain and heartache) can have moments in time when a ray of sunlight shines through. Keep us posted. Take care</p> Dave, this is wonderful news…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-05-24:2054931:Comment:1124562012-05-24T03:06:00.945ZDebra Wickhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DebraWick
Dave, this is wonderful news and I'm sure gives all of us hope. My husband's battle with liver cancer was also brief and horrific- five months. It's hard to comprehend that time frame being such a blur, yet images of what happened come stabbing back into my heart suddenly, with frightening clarity! Good luck my friend and please keep us posted.
Dave, this is wonderful news and I'm sure gives all of us hope. My husband's battle with liver cancer was also brief and horrific- five months. It's hard to comprehend that time frame being such a blur, yet images of what happened come stabbing back into my heart suddenly, with frightening clarity! Good luck my friend and please keep us posted. I've having an weird experien…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-05-11:2054931:Comment:1097262012-05-11T23:10:59.633ZDave Frankhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DaveFrank
<p>I've having an weird experience today. After 2 1/2 weeks of nonstop pain and torturing anxiety (my best friend's memorial service was 2 1/2 weeks ago), I sat with a student of mine and felt like laughing. Did a long meditation, went out for a walk and I felt a little bit like I was coming back to life after going to hell and back.. but still I feel this awful clamping in my abdomen and it seems that at any moment I could get sucked down into this hellhole of pain!</p>
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<p>I've having an weird experience today. After 2 1/2 weeks of nonstop pain and torturing anxiety (my best friend's memorial service was 2 1/2 weeks ago), I sat with a student of mine and felt like laughing. Did a long meditation, went out for a walk and I felt a little bit like I was coming back to life after going to hell and back.. but still I feel this awful clamping in my abdomen and it seems that at any moment I could get sucked down into this hellhole of pain!</p>
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<p>Still, for some time today I felt I was back to joy, energy flowed where before there was just emptiness for a long time, did it feel good. I read some very helpful quotes by my teacher Paramahansa Yogananada that helped me understand things..</p>
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<p>Dave</p> Dear Dave,
The pain is yes, n…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-05-10:2054931:Comment:1094592012-05-10T14:47:24.757ZSue Waxmanhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/SueWaxman121
<p>Dear Dave,</p>
<p>The pain is yes, normal. To witness someone as you did, suffering, in pain and not wanting to die. What is worse than that. I watched my mother suffering from chemo and radiation from throat cancer and then die in my arms. The life draining out of her face. It changed me forever. I am not sure if my heart has turned to stone or not. I hope not. I am a very outgoing, fun, funny person. Except I feel such a hole in my heart.</p>
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<p>Dear Dave,</p>
<p>The pain is yes, normal. To witness someone as you did, suffering, in pain and not wanting to die. What is worse than that. I watched my mother suffering from chemo and radiation from throat cancer and then die in my arms. The life draining out of her face. It changed me forever. I am not sure if my heart has turned to stone or not. I hope not. I am a very outgoing, fun, funny person. Except I feel such a hole in my heart.</p>
<p>Please accept my friendship and support. We grieve as we love - DEEP!</p> Thank you all for your kind w…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-05-10:2054931:Comment:1093612012-05-10T12:20:25.278ZDave Frankhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DaveFrank
<p>Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts, they are deeply appreciated.</p>
<p>Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts, they are deeply appreciated.</p>