How do you get over a loss of a baby? To never hear their heartbeat. I was 6 weeks pregnant, and I lost the one thing I wanted so badly. I can't get over this, it is so hard. I had to have surgrey to remove my baby and my fallopian tube. I dont know if i can ever have kids. I am lost, confused, scared. I dont know who i am anymore, how do you move one no matter how old or how long it still kills you inside.

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Dear Chelsea,

It sounds like you had an eptopic pregnancy. My daughter had two of these pregnancies. It is indeed heartbreaking. We cried and cried each time. Our hearts were broken. 

What helped us through it was our faith. My family is very spiritual. We rely on the promises found in the Bible about our future and the hope that God gives us. I know it’s not for everyone, and I know that there are so many different beliefs...but what we found in the scriptures did comfort us and help us. 

One account is about a 12 year old daughter who had died. Then Jesus came and brought her back to life ... notice how the family responded:

Mark 5:42 — And immediately the girl rose and began walking. (She was 12 years old.) And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy.

One day we will be reunited with our little ones. We will be “beside ourselves with great ecstasy.” 

I know now that this doesn’t take your pain away, but this hope can comfort us. I hope that you can be comforted somehow. 

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