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This December 2nd will mark the first full year of my wife's death. I am still alone. In the dark. ANd I'm more terrified than I've ever been in my life. A full year and each day feels like the first day I lost Annette.
I go to a job so unfulfilling, where each day I get closer to being let go (for whatever reason). It's a matter of time. My health is now at a point where the fluid sack between my legs has actually grown. The pain is indescribable. I don't know how much longer I have left until I finally can't walk due to my 459 pound weight. I'm collapsing so often I have to sit. I have major blackouts and when you're alone by yourself, the darkness grows so deep you wonder when the misery will end. That's a 24/7, I live in terror every day that God for some sick reason has kept me alive.
I just want to be Annette. I'm her husband and she's my wife. Even at work I know my heart is weakening. I'm told there's a problem with my heart via EKG and other tests. So, now, I sit in the dark when I am home. I eat in the dark. I lay in bed in the dark waiting to fall asleep. I have no reason to move forward. Truly I don't. I have nothing, just getting by paycheck to paycheck. Even as I write this, I have no food at home. I eat one egg to two eggs a day with ice water as I've run out of food as well as money.
Every sense of me tells me I belong with my wife. The apartment is empty except a bed, a refrigerator and a tv set. Every day is the same. How long will I suffer each day like this? I just want my old life back. I know that's not going to happen. So I have to wait until my heart give out. How long will that be? I don't know. I just hope it's soon.
I'm so sorry, Richard
The loss of your dear Annette would be more than enough to handle. You also have health and financial problems, and a job you dislike - all so overwhelming.
I understand how you want it all over and be with your wife. I do too. It is arguably the worst place a person can be in this life.
Do you qualify for disability, food stamps? Does your Dr have a treatment plan to restore your health?
Please try one thing at a time. None of what we have to do is easy.
Take care, Richard
Bless you Richard,
You're pulling all my strings.
I too cry out for my beloved to come for me and not leave me behind; it's been my worst nightmare.
Is there some physical malfunction the reason for your weight gain? What does your Dr say? So you are in que for a bypass, where are you? When you see the specialist can he answer some of these questions? I didn't know there was a lot of pain - what, if anything can be prescribed for that??
It would make a world of difference if we had our loved ones at our side, helping us, supporting us. And that is the pain isn't it?
Plz don't give up.
Your Friend David
Sorry you're not doing well.
Hopefully the results of your bloodwork will give your provider somewhere to begin with treatment - what do they say?
What kind of work do you do? If you can't do it anymore, aren't you eligible for disability?
I can only imagine how helpless you feel, and how you are missing your beloved wife.
I have yet to get the bloodwork results back. I ned to contact the doctor for the follow up this week.
I don't know, I keep begging Annette to forgive me, take me with her. I continue even with the first full year of her death I scream out in the night everyday. Life is now on hold until my own demise.
My last hope is getting my morbid obesity(from which ANnette died from) taken care of. If I'm denied by my health insurance (which doesn't cover it) after getting the letter from the specialist about the life and death issue it is, then I am truly going to sit and wait for nature to run its course.
No more fighting. No more suffering. NO more screaming out in the night. No feelings of terror or physical pain 24/7.
Just peace and a reunion with the only woman who ever gave this pathetic loser a reason for hope and love.