It's hard to accept ,my mother is no more - Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-29T12:30:55Zhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topics/it-s-hard-to-accept-my-mother-is-no-more?groupUrl=imissmymom&feed=yes&xn_auth=noBrett Thank you so much the d…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-12-20:2054931:Comment:3178152017-12-20T01:50:02.510ZTheresahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Theresa417
<p>Brett Thank you so much the days I missed over and I did get through it </p>
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<p>Brett Thank you so much the days I missed over and I did get through it </p>
<p></p> I imagine that you are not ta…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-12-19:2054931:Comment:3175092017-12-19T17:20:30.943ZBrett Bowmanhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/BrettBowman
<p>I imagine that you are not taking them wrong. There are degrees of separation. My own brothers and sister do not understand what I am going through because they were not as close to my mom as I was.</p>
<p>Try to do what you can. Keeping busy helps. It can give you some sense of purpose. Taking care of my mom was my purpose. Now that's gone. I have not found a new purpose but I continue to look for one. You need to rest now. You have experienced a trauma, but anything you can do, even going…</p>
<p>I imagine that you are not taking them wrong. There are degrees of separation. My own brothers and sister do not understand what I am going through because they were not as close to my mom as I was.</p>
<p>Try to do what you can. Keeping busy helps. It can give you some sense of purpose. Taking care of my mom was my purpose. Now that's gone. I have not found a new purpose but I continue to look for one. You need to rest now. You have experienced a trauma, but anything you can do, even going for a walk can help. You can come out of this. It may take a long time. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Take baby steps. We took care of our moms. Now we have to at least try to take care of ourselves.</p>
<p>Theresa, I will be thinking about you today. Thinking and praying. </p> Thank you Brett and Theresa f…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-12-19:2054931:Comment:3177232017-12-19T16:28:06.702ZAmbreenhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Ambreen
<p>Thank you Brett and Theresa for your emotional support.Brett my circumstances are somehow similar to you.I preferred to work as a freelancer just for my mother,because I want to stay with her,when she fell ill,I stopped taking projects because I wanted to look after my mother properly,because she was my whole world...she loved me,understood me and my problems,she always took stand for me..on her last days she requested to my brother , take care of my daughter, never hurt her.. now my world…</p>
<p>Thank you Brett and Theresa for your emotional support.Brett my circumstances are somehow similar to you.I preferred to work as a freelancer just for my mother,because I want to stay with her,when she fell ill,I stopped taking projects because I wanted to look after my mother properly,because she was my whole world...she loved me,understood me and my problems,she always took stand for me..on her last days she requested to my brother , take care of my daughter, never hurt her.. now my world is empty... I am all alone. I am surrounded by a deep silence.. I try to work.. when get tired.. I just lie down in bed, cover me with a blanket, spend several hours like that, everybody thinks I am doing work. I spend every night by waking up on hourly basis and watching the clock, waiting for the morning,no body is understanding me or may be I am taking them wrong..I am feeling that I would never be able to come out of this trauma.</p> Ambreen, Brett is right you a…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-12-19:2054931:Comment:3175062017-12-19T11:58:35.575ZTheresahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Theresa417
<p>Ambreen, Brett is right you are in shock, I was in a fog/haze for one year.</p>
<p>Today marks two years for my mom, my love for her will never change, but I now understand I can't change lifes events, I have to learn to live again, somehow.</p>
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<p>God bless.</p>
<p>Ambreen, Brett is right you are in shock, I was in a fog/haze for one year.</p>
<p>Today marks two years for my mom, my love for her will never change, but I now understand I can't change lifes events, I have to learn to live again, somehow.</p>
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<p>God bless.</p> Ambreen, It hasn't even been…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-12-18:2054931:Comment:3175332017-12-18T08:10:20.915ZBrett Bowmanhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/BrettBowman
<p>Ambreen, It hasn't even been a month for you and I can promise you that you are still in shock. It may not feel like it. First, I just want to tell you that I am so sorry for your loss. This Christmas eve will make two years for me. It all could have happened last week. It's a shame that anyone would expect you to move on this early, but you have to be your own advocate. Feel what you feel. People will give advice. Even me. I will give you advice, but everyone's journey is different. No two…</p>
<p>Ambreen, It hasn't even been a month for you and I can promise you that you are still in shock. It may not feel like it. First, I just want to tell you that I am so sorry for your loss. This Christmas eve will make two years for me. It all could have happened last week. It's a shame that anyone would expect you to move on this early, but you have to be your own advocate. Feel what you feel. People will give advice. Even me. I will give you advice, but everyone's journey is different. No two people grieve the same way. Your relationship with your mom was unique to you and her. No one knows exactly how you feel. I do know one thing. You love your mama. I love mine. I don't say loved, because that love didn't die. It can't. Take care of yourself as best you can. Please feel free to come her and vent. You have found a group of people who have lost their moms and are having a very hard time dealing with it. I know this much, there is no ideal way to lose your mom. It hurts, regardless of the circumstances, it hurts badly. You are not alone. I will pray for you. And I won't forget about you after I pray. I'm pulling for you. If you have any questions, please ask us. God Bless You, my friend. There are no magic words that will make you feel better. Just know that you are not alone.</p>