I miss my dad - Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-28T13:49:05Zhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topics/i-miss-my-dad?commentId=2054931%3AComment%3A124765&x=1&feed=yes&xn_auth=nojb
I understand your feelings…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-26:2054931:Comment:1247652012-08-26T01:47:52.313ZDenise Frappollohttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DeniseFrappollo
<p>jb</p>
<p>I understand your feelings and I whispered the same things to my Dad. </p>
<p>jb</p>
<p>I understand your feelings and I whispered the same things to my Dad. </p> it least on hear i can get my…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-25:2054931:Comment:1248822012-08-25T20:32:40.508Zdream moon JO Bhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/jb
<p>it least on hear i can get my fealing dooooon with out people judge u coz we r all going thru the sam pain and greith but in difrent ways my mum lost her parents over 40 yrs ago and she told me she never ever got over luzing thm even wen she lost my anti flo her sister to bone canser my mum never got over losing her yunger sista but this yer as bean a very nasty yer to our family a bit to nasty this yer espesely the way my dad died lazy nurses not helping just stud on the ward gosping and…</p>
<p>it least on hear i can get my fealing dooooon with out people judge u coz we r all going thru the sam pain and greith but in difrent ways my mum lost her parents over 40 yrs ago and she told me she never ever got over luzing thm even wen she lost my anti flo her sister to bone canser my mum never got over losing her yunger sista but this yer as bean a very nasty yer to our family a bit to nasty this yer espesely the way my dad died lazy nurses not helping just stud on the ward gosping and bean rasest wish woz not nise and the post mortem i dont no wish report is rite or wong al i no is my cuzen whos a charge nurse wen i last saw her nobody dies of natswell carses even wen she woz a nurse in casulty and peopl cum in after a car acstend or wot ever thy hav died of a nasty acsetentd</p> wen people say get over it i…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-25:2054931:Comment:1249362012-08-25T20:02:58.137Zdream moon JO Bhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/jb
<p>wen people say get over it i canet denise the thort of going to a suport grup scares me im a bit wel im very shy rond to many people id end up stutering all my words out i sum times thng sum peple hav no fealings at all my granmother kate woz her anversry this month i cant rember the yer she died i woz abot 15 im almost 38 now even i dont want any xmas decratsions up this yer the only thnk i want is my dad to cum bac but i no he cant at his funrell wen we warket be hind his coffen and…</p>
<p>wen people say get over it i canet denise the thort of going to a suport grup scares me im a bit wel im very shy rond to many people id end up stutering all my words out i sum times thng sum peple hav no fealings at all my granmother kate woz her anversry this month i cant rember the yer she died i woz abot 15 im almost 38 now even i dont want any xmas decratsions up this yer the only thnk i want is my dad to cum bac but i no he cant at his funrell wen we warket be hind his coffen and follering the preast and funrell directer i wispit to my dads coffen i luv u dad u wer the best</p> jb
I get the same annoying co…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-24:2054931:Comment:1247432012-08-24T21:52:54.889ZDenise Frappollohttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DeniseFrappollo
<p>jb</p>
<p>I get the same annoying comments, I should be happy he had a full life and that we all have to die sometime. I remember all my grandparents, I still have on around. My Dad's mother, I remember the deaths of the other three grandparents. Each had its own pain and process, but this is extremely hard. Mom is already talking about setting up the village that Dad put together for Christmas...something I am not looking forward to, I actually asked if we could skip the decorating this…</p>
<p>jb</p>
<p>I get the same annoying comments, I should be happy he had a full life and that we all have to die sometime. I remember all my grandparents, I still have on around. My Dad's mother, I remember the deaths of the other three grandparents. Each had its own pain and process, but this is extremely hard. Mom is already talking about setting up the village that Dad put together for Christmas...something I am not looking forward to, I actually asked if we could skip the decorating this year and got told "No". </p> I am told it takes time, ther…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-24:2054931:Comment:1247422012-08-24T21:46:39.544ZDenise Frappollohttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DeniseFrappollo
<p>I am told it takes time, there is no limit to the healing process. Like yourself I keep my pain hidden in the office. I cry at home and often, I am glad you found a group for healing. The only ones here, my mother is involved with and she would only worry more about me than her healing. </p>
<p>I am told it takes time, there is no limit to the healing process. Like yourself I keep my pain hidden in the office. I cry at home and often, I am glad you found a group for healing. The only ones here, my mother is involved with and she would only worry more about me than her healing. </p> im the same i misss my dad li…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-24:2054931:Comment:1249212012-08-24T20:37:10.066Zdream moon JO Bhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/jb
<p>im the same i misss my dad like krazy i never thort it wood hurt lik this i dont want to thnk of xmas coz it woz my dads tim his bday on boxing day so he allways got extra spolit i keep on tarking to his foto asking him to cum bac it makes it worse wen u r so close my grand mother died wen she woz 89 to but that woz yrs ago i cant rember he yer i no my dad wud wite the anaversy doon of all the family and frens death or cut thm out of the paper so i wud put in a scrao book so i wudnt fogey i…</p>
<p>im the same i misss my dad like krazy i never thort it wood hurt lik this i dont want to thnk of xmas coz it woz my dads tim his bday on boxing day so he allways got extra spolit i keep on tarking to his foto asking him to cum bac it makes it worse wen u r so close my grand mother died wen she woz 89 to but that woz yrs ago i cant rember he yer i no my dad wud wite the anaversy doon of all the family and frens death or cut thm out of the paper so i wud put in a scrao book so i wudnt fogey i get anoyed wen pepol say i shud get over it but i cant he woz the 1 that kept the family togeta hed be very upset at the family now argung all the tim fiting over money and wills coz we hav all bean told we shud start and rite our wills out but the way sum people hav bean caring on and bulying iv desided wot iv got will pay toward my funwell and the rest will go to charty my harf big brotha has saed the sam coz of seren people well 1 person sum 1 who shud reapect her elders</p> UPDATE-
2 months after my dad…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-24:2054931:Comment:1248622012-08-24T20:07:39.081ZLizhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Liz914
<p>UPDATE-</p>
<p><br></br>2 months after my dad died, my only grandma passed (my mom`s mom) She was 89 years old. She was the only thing left in my mother and my life that was habit. We visited her every week. We knew her time was limited because she had dementia and Alzheimers, but whenever she had check ups at the doctors, she seemed to be in pretty damn good health so we figured we could hold on to her to keep us busy after my dads death....she had a stroke and digressed very quickly. I spend…</p>
<p>UPDATE-</p>
<p><br/>2 months after my dad died, my only grandma passed (my mom`s mom) She was 89 years old. She was the only thing left in my mother and my life that was habit. We visited her every week. We knew her time was limited because she had dementia and Alzheimers, but whenever she had check ups at the doctors, she seemed to be in pretty damn good health so we figured we could hold on to her to keep us busy after my dads death....she had a stroke and digressed very quickly. I spend 40 hours at her beside until she took her last breath. I loved my grandma so much. I miss her deeply. It was so hard because her death brought back all the emotions from my dads death and made it that much harder...</p>
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<p>I got married. I ended up having a small court house ceremony because it was too stressful and hard on me to walk down an actual aisle with over 150 people starring at me ....probably crying because my dad isn't beside me...</p>
<p>We had a big reception party up at the Island where our family cottage is at. It was a very mixed emotion kind of day. I was happy to see all my friends ...but I was also torn inside holding back tears because I knew my dad never saw me in my wedding dress.. and he was not a part of this special day with all his friends and family. It broke me.</p>
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<p>So here we are today... exactly 4 months later from my dads death.. and 2 months for my grandma....and its horrible. Everyday is a struggle. I cry almost everyday....I think about them ALL the time. It consumes me.</p>
<p>I`m starting my 3rd semester of my MBA next week so hopefully that will keep me a little occupied now that the wedding is over.</p>
<p>I signed up for group counseling this Fall for "20 somethings" that have lost a loved one. I`m hopeful. I don't have any friends in my life that have experienced loss like me, so its really hard to talk to anyone but my mom about it. We are each others support system. My mom is in the group for death of spouses and she said it helps to talk to people that are going through the same thing.</p>
<p>I had dreams about my dad last night... I can exactly remember what they were but when my alarm went off...I kept hitting the snooze so I could go back into my dream and see his face again. Everything around me reminds me of him. I have a lot of furniture in my home that he refurbished for me. The Island that our cottage is on is now up to my mom and myself to keep it going... my dad was always the leader. ....</p>
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<p>People at work think everything's OK bc I try not to show emotion there.... so its like.. OK... she had her week off to grieve.... shes back to normal.. shes fine... BUT IM NOT .</p>
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<p>I`m lost...and I don't know when i`ll be found again.</p> Liz
I have 22 years on you, I…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-24:2054931:Comment:1246972012-08-24T19:36:10.358ZDenise Frappollohttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DeniseFrappollo
<p>Liz</p>
<p>I have 22 years on you, I had time to say good bye to my Dad. Your Dad sounds a lot like mine, he loved his family fiercely and life. Dad loved nothing more than going into a room of family or friends and socializing. Unlike your Dad mine had liver disease from an unknown cause. Like yourself I cannot imagine Dad being anywhere better than with those who love him, the ones he left behind. I had a year and a half to prepare for his passing. I can tell you the pain and…</p>
<p>Liz</p>
<p>I have 22 years on you, I had time to say good bye to my Dad. Your Dad sounds a lot like mine, he loved his family fiercely and life. Dad loved nothing more than going into a room of family or friends and socializing. Unlike your Dad mine had liver disease from an unknown cause. Like yourself I cannot imagine Dad being anywhere better than with those who love him, the ones he left behind. I had a year and a half to prepare for his passing. I can tell you the pain and feelings you describe are the ones I feel, it breaks my heart to see my mother cry. Dad was her only love, they would have celebrated their 50th anniversary next month. Sitting in the home they shared is difficult, I keep expecting him to walk in the door or down the hall. When I call I half hope he will answer the phone, I still find myself saying "I will have to ask Dad about that", I dread the upcoming holiday season, my father loved Thanksgiving and Christmas. Life without Dad is tough, he was my hero, my biggest fan (second only to my husband and daughter), and supporter. Amazing to read the work stories, my Dad's last two weeks with us was in a hospice center in the same city I worked in, I got the call from Mom that his condition had deteriorated and we needed to come. He passed two days later. I miss him, I feel like part of me went with him and other times I feel like a child lost in a crowd that just wants their Dad. It's been three months since we buried him, I went into their home this week to pick up something and all the pain rushed back. I broke down again and sobbed the pain was incredible. The only thing is unlike someone who lost their parent suddenly, I had time to tell him how much I loved him, was grateful for all the love he gave me, and left nothing unsaid. </p> my dad woz good to he had hea…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-04:2054931:Comment:1209922012-08-04T20:31:46.417Zdream moon JO Bhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/jb
<p>my dad woz good to he had heart of gold very kind and loving like a lot of dads on i love my dad page</p>
<p>my dad woz good to he had heart of gold very kind and loving like a lot of dads on i love my dad page</p> my dad was awesome, the best…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2012-08-03:2054931:Comment:1209812012-08-03T21:43:37.228ZSharon Pughhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/SharonPugh
<p>my dad was awesome, the best pal ever</p>
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<p>my dad was awesome, the best pal ever</p>
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