hi im 28 years old.. mother of 2 beutiful kids my 10 year old daughter n my 3 year old son.. i lost my husband on june 22-2011 ... he was ridin his harley n crash with a semi truck :(  i feel so sad n angry i dont know how to deal with this... that was the love of my life..the only one ive been with since i was 16..our marriage was bad cause he would always cheat on me but i always fought for him n try everything ..n at the end i loose him like that... that day we had an arguement n he went n drink... now hes gone forever!!! i just dont understand why??? i miss him alot... i cant be myself no more i dont know how to cope with this pleaseee help me!!! im desparate ... how do u get thru this??

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Dear Adriana,

I am so sorry for your loss. This site has been such an amazing source of support for me. You have so much to deal with. You will find great friendships on this site. Sue

I am so sorry for your loss god bless you and your kids
I'm sorry.  I would be angry to, I lost my best friend in life to cancer.  For you,  you have 2 beautiful children to remind you and have a piece of your beloved husband with you. Stay strong, because remember your kids need your love, and they need to understand that mommy's hurting  too.
THANK U LADIES FOR YOUR KIND WORDS... IT DOES HELP TO TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE THAT HAVE BEEN THRU THE SAME.... I REALLY HOPE I COULD MAKE IT.. I KNOW MY KIDS NEED ME BUT IS NOT THE SAME :( .. WE HAD JUST BOUGHT A HOUSE N I HAD TO LEAVE MY HOME II JUST COULDNT BE THERE.. SHOULD I MOVE FOR GOOD?? OR GO BACK TO OUR HOME??? I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?? JUST BEING THERE IT FEELS LIKE IF HE WAS ALIVE N I FEEL MY KIDS ARE GOING TO THINK THEIR DAD WILL COME HOME BUT AT THE SAME TIME IS HARD THINKING THAT I HAVE TO LIVE MY HOME....

I left everything 6 years ago. I'm living in my best friends house. It's very difficult coming home and not having her here. I totally understand and appreciate that. Your kids have to be comfortable where-ever they live. If it means a completely new place to build new memories, without Dad's shadow, then so be it. Talk to your oldest and see what's going and how they feel.

 

Good luck to you.

yeah thats what i think too.... my daughter tells me that she dont want to go back!! n i feel my 3 year old boy is going to think hes going to see his daddy ... i just cant believe im going thru this.. one day my whole world came crashing down on me:(

my thoughts and prayers with you... not sure what to say.. wish the pain could go away... never does but you will all get some good moments too.. I do even tho I always end up thinking of my wonderful sister ... do whatever feels right for you.. sometimes beinga way from families places helps to get moving on wth life somehow... i find the unfamiliar helps but sometimes i am drawn to her .. go in her room , wear her clothes.. smell her clothes... cant take it for too long but feel the need to be where she lived.. miss her so much my sister was my soulmate... my only bestest friend... hope it gets better...

 

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