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Has anyone attended Griefshare support groups at local churches? I looked at the included topics and it sounds very intense.
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Permalink Reply by bluebird on -
I have not. If you think it might help you, though, why not check one out? There's no obligation for you to go back if you find it's not for you.
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Permalink Reply by Joy on -
I did attend a Griefshare support group. It's a mixture of group discussion and videos of people from different walks of life who have gone through the grief process. Overall, I would say that I'm glad I did it because I needed to openly share my grief. I have a tendency to keep things inside a lot and suffer alone because people who haven't lost anyone dear to them don't get what I'm going through. Our Griefshare leader was also very compassionate which helped a lot. It also helps that the people in the room can empathize as they are grieving as well. That said, I also found the weekly meetings draining because sometimes I just get tired of talking about my grief and it seems to drag out the grief experience and no amount of talking about my feelings is going to bring my mother back. She's been gone a little over a year and if anything, my grief has deepened than when it first happened. I'm not trying to discourage you, I'm just being realistic about my experience. It may not hurt to try it out.
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I'm glad it helped you a bit. Don't worry about discouraging me, I am already discouraged. My husband died nearly six years ago, and my life has been hell since then. I have done therapy in the past, long before I even met my husband, for anxiety/panic disorder. I haven't and likely won't go to grief therapy, though; no grief therapist can fix or help me to fix what's wrong, because no therapist can make my husband not be dead.
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Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on -
Hi Bluebird & Joy
It has been 5 years since I lost my Husband. I too had a grief counselor for one year after he died. she did help me understand all the feelings I was having, but the grief never ends. Al I do is try to keep busy to make it through each day. Like the words in the song Willie Nelson sang, "It's not something you get over, it's just something you go through".
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