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Lynda, You are someone I would love to talk to about this. I am a technical minded person that has questions and my dear mother passed just a little over 4 years ago. I am still lost without her but have been managing to do what she left me in charge to do. Not easy being me.
I have never had a close relationship to any of my brothers or sisters. Sucks but there were decade differences and that older sister crap.
I am also rambling because I find myself lost without anyone to confide in right now due to a shitload of other in law health issues my husband has been keeping from me.
The reason is sorrowful so I really do not want to go on about it right now. My mother was MY ROCK.
I do not have a tribe of people and am not part of a church group. I have nothing against that, I just do not need a shitload of people telling me that everything is going to be ok. I am ok on my own with my multiple pet family and what plants that I have not killed since mother left me holding the bag. I really miss her right now. I know we are "supposed" to be ready or ok when our "elderly" mothers pass but when the bond is strong, the loss hurts really bad. Peace
We lost a very dear friend 2 weeks ago May 8th to a motorcycle accident. He was on the way to work at 7 am. I will spare the details. Known him for 40 years. He was born riding a motorcycle.
We went to his memorial and their pastor made a statement that has stayed with me.
He said that we are all in the land of the dying. When our friend left he went on to the land of the living. From the day we are born we are all dying. That comment comforted me like no other has in all of the past funerals and memorials that I have been too. To many to count now. I do believe that there is hope that we don't just cease to exist.