I never know who I can talk to at school about my brothers death...  None of my friends understand; thankfully so, because I would never want them to!  I feel alone though because they don't know what to say to make things better.


My brother died ten years ago when I was seven and him four.  I want to talk again about his death but it's to hard to talk with my friends because, again, they don't understand.  I just want to talk but I don't know who to go to!

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I'm thinking of talking to my school counselor again...  The pain never gets easier but you do find healthy ways to cope...  Thank you; if you need to talk please do...  I'm not much good for myself but for others, I'm a nice ear.  :)

I tried to start a support group in my school but wasn't allowed.  :(  Something about how I wasn't experienced enough to start a group like this on my own.  I don't know any support groups around my town.  Plus, sadly, I'm 18 and that means that I have to tell my parents where I'm going...  I don't want them to know that I'm not talking to them...  Even though they don't want me to go to them, they don't want to admit that and they'll get mad that I'm not going to them.  I'm gonna try to find one when I'm older...  I don't have to tell my parents then.

I definitely know how that feels. I lost my mother when I was seven and having to grow up without her was difficult. I always felt out of place. The other students would pick on me when there would be "teacher parent" conferences. They would always ask me the next day in class "why didn't your parents come to the meeting last night?" There was only one time when I mentioned my mother being deceased and after that time I never did again, because a couple of the boys started to make jokes and laugh. Of course the other girls started to laugh too and then they all went back to their seats leaving the dark laughter cloud over my head to deal with. 

I didn't actually start to realize that my mother was never coming back until about 15 years old. My teenage years were the worst because all I wanted was for someone to listen. Things are a better now but everyday there is a new lesson to learn. I still miss my mother very much. Matter of fact I'm the only one in my family who doesn't have parents. So, I have always been different in that respect. 

But, I would say that if you want to talk to anyone about how to feel talk to someone that you trust, like your church pastor if you attend church. 

Hey there Kim, I know how you feel! I just lost my mother on June 3, and it has made me feel so isolated.  Anytime I bring it up I can see how uncomfortable people get.  I need so badly to vent, and thats all the advice you get, but how can you vent to people who don't understand what it is you're going through.  If you ever need to talk, shoot me a message, I'd be more than happy to listen.  

It is hard to find anyone to talk to & I've been very disappointed by people's insensitivity. My oldest child died November 2011 & it's as if people think I should be over grieving. I know I'll never be over grieving, I just hope I can learn to live life without him. Counseling has helped me. It is too bad that people generally lack empathy & are so concerned about there own trivial day to day life issues that they can't just listen & allow a friend to grieve without making you feel as if your imposing on them. It helps me a bit to know I'm not the only person dealing with this indescribable pain. Sorry for your loss.



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