My mother's best friend Tina, who was like a second mother to me, was murdered December 3, 2010. I miss her so much, but it has been difficult for me to grieve. I don't think it has really hit me yet. I don't think it will hit me until the murder trial is over; it hasn't even started yet. Maybe that will give me a little bit of closure. I also feel like it is hard for me to grieve because I am so angry at the man who murdered Tina. Maybe my anger towards him is covering up my sadness, if that makes sense. Does anyone else feel the same way?
I believe...Your anger is covering up your saddness. But it is definitely understandable. When someone we love passes to the next world, and I believe that is heaven, we are left with a hole in our hearts and lives that can only be replaced with the love and memories and hopes we have to be reunited with them again. Obviously her way of death is HORRIBLe for all of your to accept. I agree until the trial is over...anger and disbelief will engulf your thoughts. I would be so angry and so just full of hate for the person that did it. Know this...Tina is in a beautiful place and you will see you again. This is true. I am praying for you. There is a lot of power in prayer. TRUST ME ON THIS.
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"Hi everyone, My name is Katherine.
I am learning how to deal with the loss of my mom, she passed away two months ago.My mom was never my best friend, but she was so much more. She made me the person that I am today and living without her has…"
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