how do I deal with this horrible disease that is taking my family little by little I lost my husband to this horrible disease and my brother is still battling his cancer for many years and now his wife my sister in-law has stage four metastatic breast cancer I don't know how to handle this anymore I just don't understand. I lost my husband in September of 2015 he was first diagnosed with stage two throat cancer then he went in for a pet scan and they found a second and separate cancer in his lungs,liver, and spine which was diagnosed as terminal that was in July  of 2015 two months later he was gone this horrible disease destroys families so my question is how do I or anyone deal with this especially when it continues to destroy everyone I  love this  is too much !!!!!!!!!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         

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Pamela

Cancer is indeed a plague. Death from cancer is only part of the story. The journey from diagnosis to death is horrific and overwhelming. Even though cancer effects a lot of people, there are so many that just don't understand how devastating it can be from the moment one finds out that they have it.

I too have had loved ones that dealt with cancer. Some have died and some are still on the unspeakable journey of treatment and chemo and surgery etc. etc.

The ONLY thing that helps me at all is a Biblical view of our future. I know that the Bible is not for everyone and that is OK, but it works for me by giving me a HOPE and a FUTURE. 

For example:

Isaiah 33:4 says "And no resident will say "I AM SICK...."

I believe that one day those words will come true right here on the earth. This gives me hope and a future. 

It certainly doesn't take our pain away, but it does comfort me to know that one day life will be better and no one will get sick. NO MORE CANCER. 

If there is any way that I can help, comfort, impart hope for a better future, please let me know

Dennis

big c is evil loss lot of famly to it evn frinds nboz 

my religen is spirtsalm it is but big c is evil lk dem/alz it is evil i prey thy can rid o it i do

sines joingg spooks churchh im not only 1 its loss famly coz of big c evn alz /dem

bth likned to geht in difo ways

if drs had cot my antis dott floss maryss annss edithss cuzns seve andra so on  big c earlerr thy motr still be hear 

now iv fond skools i wz in why it got bull dozd wz ful of asbestoss so now i no im it risk  it mayb dad died moree of it coz of me coz of vad beaver i had as kid wish got me fealin guiltyy it duz  

sorry if im sayin wong thngs or rab,on on to mush 

I lost my husband on November 25th 2018 he had stage 4 cancer I lost him within 3 months. This Christmas was so hard. I'm tired of people who haven't lost anyone that it gets easier. All I need is time. I'm so ss for everyone who lost their lived one. I wish I could spend a bit more time with him but all I do is stare at the door waiting for something that will never happen

dear Connie I understand how you feel it has been three years and three months since I lost my husband and I agree with you that I wish people would stop telling me that in time I will heal or that it gets easier,  for me that is all a lie I am still as broken as the day I lost  the love of my life I believe that people say that because they think it will make you feel better when actually  it angers you because no one can tell you how to grieve and unless they experience the same kind of loss they cant know how you really feel I am truly sorry for the heartache you are going through this is what this site is for so we can say how we really feel with no judgement again I am so sorry for the pain and heartache you are going through 

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