Agony after grandmum's death. - Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-28T19:22:38Zhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topics/agony-after-grandmum-s-death?commentId=2054931%3AComment%3A304339&xg_source=activity&feed=yes&xn_auth=noThis sounds very much like my…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-04-29:2054931:Comment:3045822017-04-29T18:21:10.793ZPaula Mariehttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/PaulaMarie
<p>This sounds very much like my experience of losing my amazing mother nearly 4 years ago. I felt totally empty and dead inside, and lost almost every reason to live. I clung to the few things left in my life that had meaning, and really just wanted to die. An existential philosopher once wrote that the spirit will die if one has nothing to live for, "no will to meaning." You must find something to live for, even if it's not the same as your relationship to your beloved grandmother. Love…</p>
<p>This sounds very much like my experience of losing my amazing mother nearly 4 years ago. I felt totally empty and dead inside, and lost almost every reason to live. I clung to the few things left in my life that had meaning, and really just wanted to die. An existential philosopher once wrote that the spirit will die if one has nothing to live for, "no will to meaning." You must find something to live for, even if it's not the same as your relationship to your beloved grandmother. Love heals. And, remember, you carry within you her lovely spirit, life lessons, and her very DNA. She is never far; in fact, she's within you. It's been four years now since I lost the person who I can barely live without. I will never be the same person I was before I lost her, and I'm still trying to rebuild myself and find some peace. I involve myself with all I have left, including my pets. Pets can be wonderful for a broken heart and can often give us a special something people cannot always give. Most people don't understand I am still grieving after so long. I do have "happy moments" where I might forget for a few hours, but am still shell-shocked. I have so many blessings in my life, but life just seems empty without my mom. She was my close friend, sister, mother, father, everything. Somehow, I I've managed to get through four years and have no idea what the future will bring me. It's as if reality has shattered. I find that having some kind of hobbies or interests help, too, although sometimes one is just too depressed to have any interests. I think of all the human beings who have also gone through this same pain, so many tears through all human history, but it's still hard to imagine I'm not alone. This will be a very long healing process, but the natural tendency of a soul is to survive and learn and to continue to love. I wish you all the strength and goodness in the world. Peace to you.</p> Cristian,
I am so sorry for…tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-04-21:2054931:Comment:3043392017-04-21T11:48:49.610ZDennis C.http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/DennisCole
Cristian,<br />
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I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could take your pain away.<br />
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What helps me is the Bible. I know not everyone finds comfort in it , but to me it gives me a wonderful hope for the future. It speaks about being reunited with our loved ones.<br />
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For example:<br />
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Mark 5:42 — And immediately the girl rose and began walking. (She was 12 years old.) And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy.<br />
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In this scripture the family had lost their 12 year old daughter...how painful that…
Cristian,<br />
<br />
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could take your pain away.<br />
<br />
What helps me is the Bible. I know not everyone finds comfort in it , but to me it gives me a wonderful hope for the future. It speaks about being reunited with our loved ones.<br />
<br />
For example:<br />
<br />
Mark 5:42 — And immediately the girl rose and began walking. (She was 12 years old.) And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy.<br />
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In this scripture the family had lost their 12 year old daughter...how painful that must have been...but the account is about Jesus resurrecting this 12 year old. Notice how the family responds.<br />
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"they were beside themselves with great ecstasy."<br />
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You and I can look forward to that in our future.