All Discussions Tagged 'husband' - Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-28T21:27:52Zhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topic/listForTag?tag=husband&feed=yes&xn_auth=noLost my husband and miscarriedtag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-09-05:2054931:Topic:3120732017-09-05T20:10:39.280ZMoniquehttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Monique49
<p>I lost my husband to terminal cancer 6 weeks ago. Before we knew he was terminal we started IVF and had become pregnant, but during all the stress and emotional time of caring for my husband and realising he was dying I had a miscarriage. It happened 2 weeks before he passed. I feel I'm grieving for both him and our baby and it only seems to be getting worse. Im 33 and know I can still try have a baby some day (we had no other kids - he couldn't have kids naturally as he first had cancer…</p>
<p>I lost my husband to terminal cancer 6 weeks ago. Before we knew he was terminal we started IVF and had become pregnant, but during all the stress and emotional time of caring for my husband and realising he was dying I had a miscarriage. It happened 2 weeks before he passed. I feel I'm grieving for both him and our baby and it only seems to be getting worse. Im 33 and know I can still try have a baby some day (we had no other kids - he couldn't have kids naturally as he first had cancer 6 years ago and chemo made him infertile) but I wanted a baby with him. We have 2 embryo's left and I know its only been 6 weeks but Im so confused on how i feel about wanting his baby and using the embryos one day. I miss him so much we were together 12 years. </p>
<p>Has anyone else had this happen to them? </p> Hi. New. Just found out my husband has liver cancertag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2015-03-27:2054931:Topic:2260452015-03-27T21:33:39.557Zkathleen akinhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/kathleenakin
<p>And was told he didn't have long. Only last week actually.</p>
<p>I don't know how to go about this, posting this stuff and what not.</p>
<p>I'm lost and it's hard and too soon and just typing this makes me want to cry.</p>
<p>I only met him 12 years ago. We married late in life, he is 65 and I am 57 and I love him.</p>
<p>Its not fair.</p>
<p>I find this man after 3 bad and abusive relationships and now he's going to be taken from me?</p>
<p>Well, that is my intro.</p>
<p>I will be reading…</p>
<p>And was told he didn't have long. Only last week actually.</p>
<p>I don't know how to go about this, posting this stuff and what not.</p>
<p>I'm lost and it's hard and too soon and just typing this makes me want to cry.</p>
<p>I only met him 12 years ago. We married late in life, he is 65 and I am 57 and I love him.</p>
<p>Its not fair.</p>
<p>I find this man after 3 bad and abusive relationships and now he's going to be taken from me?</p>
<p>Well, that is my intro.</p>
<p>I will be reading and following</p>
<p>Thank you.</p>
<p>Kathy Akin</p> WIDOW AT 49tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2014-11-17:2054931:Topic:2100502014-11-17T22:24:55.063ZKaren Pagenkopf Teighttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/KarenPagenkopfTeig
<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; color: #800080;">Hi! My name is Karen and I am joining this group for online support in grieving for the loss of my husband.<br></br></span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; color: #800080;">My husband died unexpectedly on September 6, 2014. I found him in our bed. He had gone to bed early that evening around 7:30. I had gone to bed at 10 p.m. He was snoring…</span></p>
<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; color: #800080;">Hi! My name is Karen and I am joining this group for online support in grieving for the loss of my husband.<br/></span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; color: #800080;">My husband died unexpectedly on September 6, 2014. I found him in our bed. He had gone to bed early that evening around 7:30. I had gone to bed at 10 p.m. He was snoring really loud and so for the first time in years, I went to sleep down in our home office. Around 1:30 the morning of September 6, I got up to go to the bathroom and checked on him. He was still snoring away. Around 2:15 my son went to bed and could hear him still snoring through the bedroom door.</span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; color: #800080;">At just before 4 a.m., I went to get ready for work and walked in our bedroom and it was silent. I flipped on the light and checked him. He was not breathing, his tongue was rigid, and his eyes were not moving. I screamed for our son to call 911. He did and we performed CPR until the fire rescue and ambulance came. The call went in at 3:59 a.m. and by 4:20 a.m. they pronounced my husband dead.</span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; color: #800080;">My husband was losing his sight, had migraine headaches daily, had problem knees, stomach problems, thyroid disease, depression, among other things. He was on Morphine and Lortabs for his migraines and other pain, along with an anti-depressant and other meds for various things. </span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; color: #800080;">When the death certificate came through it read Morphine Overdose, with contributing factor of Coronary Artery Disease....Manner being suicide. :( We were crushed and devastated. </span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; color: #800080;">We are still picking up the pieces and will be for awhile. Our 19 year old son is dealing as best he can. I start grief counseling tomorrow at my work. </span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; color: #800080;">I decided to come find some online support for the times when here is no counselor, etc. And maybe to be able to support others too. I have a very good support system here in town but can always use more as this the the first lost off this nature I have dealt with. I have lost parents, aunts, uncles, grandma, friends. This was my life partner and I miss him dearly everyday. </span></p>
<p></p> My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2013-10-19:2054931:Topic:1765942013-10-19T21:48:14.959Zbluebirdhttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Kristina68
<p><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">My husband is my soulmate, my love, my heart. I knew from the moment I met him that we were soulmates, meant to be together (that is not hyperbole -- I really did <em>know</em>). We were together for nearly 13 years before he died; he died of a sudden, unexpected heart attack, literally one week to the day after our wedding. His death killed him and destroyed me.</span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">My husband is my soulmate, my love, my heart. I knew from the moment I met him that we were soulmates, meant to be together (that is not hyperbole -- I really did <em>know</em>). We were together for nearly 13 years before he died; he died of a sudden, unexpected heart attack, literally one week to the day after our wedding. His death killed him and destroyed me.</span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">I cannot begin to explain the devastation. From the second I knew he died I have wanted him to come back, to have our life together that we were meant to have -- and failing that, I want nothing more than to die. I am agnostic (verging on atheist, since my husband died), so I don't know if there's a god or an afterlife. I <em><strong>hope</strong></em> there is, and that my husband is there, happy and still himself, and that we will be together again, and I hope I die as soon as possible so that I can be with him. If there is no such thing as an afterlife, then I still hope I die as soon as possible so that this horrific pain of missing him will be over.</span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">The worst thing about all of this is not knowing if my sweet, wonderful husband's soul still exists, as it should. The second worst thing is not having him here with me, living our life together. But after those, there are so many other bad things now -- whatever tenuous faith I may have had in the possibility of a loving god is gone and now if there is a god I hate her/him, any chance we/I had to have children is gone, I can barely relate to my family or spend time with them (though they are wonderful and loving, but it's not enough to make me want to live), I am severely depressed and have absolutely no desire to live. </span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">People say "It's sad, but you have to move on". No, I f***ing <strong><em>don't</em></strong> -- and won't, in any way. The only reason I haven't killed myself yet is because I promised my family that I wouldn't, but there's no way I will choose to live for years -- if god or the universe or whatever doesn't kill me, eventually I will. For as long as I am forced to live, I will <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em>NEVER</em></strong></span> date anyone else -- I am MARRIED, and my husband's death does not change that. The very idea of even going on a date with anyone else is sickening to me, and always will be (I'm not condemning anyone else who chooses to date after the death of their spouse or partner, I'm just saying that this is how it is for me). I have no desire to ever do anything with my life now (I didn't used to be like that, only since my husband died). </span></p>
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<p><span class="font-size-3" style="font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">I'm not even sure why I'm typing this here, or what I'm looking for. I definitely <em>don't</em> want any responses about how god never gives us more than we can bear, or how god is good, or basically anything about god -- if god exists at all, i have no use for her/him. No offense to those who do have faith of any kind, but it's not for me and I don't want to hear it.</span></p>