Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-29T12:02:28ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysonghttp://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/2787790025?profile=RESIZE_48X48&width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topic/listForContributor?groupUrl=grief-counseling&user=3oh0yworcpnvi&feed=yes&xn_auth=noLost my Sister to covid-19tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2021-06-12:2054931:Topic:4293442021-06-12T13:14:11.411ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
<p>My name is Saurabh and I live in Cave Creek Arizona. About a month ago(05.15.2021) I lost my younger sister(Neha, 35) to covid-19. She has left a loving husband and a beautiful 6 year old daughter. She lived in India.<br></br>This pandemic has hit all of us some way or the other. For me, it has hit in the most brutal way I could ever imagine, taking away my sister from all of us. I was in the US when she was struggling with the virus at home and at hospital. She was 6 months pregnant. The sheer…</p>
<p>My name is Saurabh and I live in Cave Creek Arizona. About a month ago(05.15.2021) I lost my younger sister(Neha, 35) to covid-19. She has left a loving husband and a beautiful 6 year old daughter. She lived in India.<br/>This pandemic has hit all of us some way or the other. For me, it has hit in the most brutal way I could ever imagine, taking away my sister from all of us. I was in the US when she was struggling with the virus at home and at hospital. She was 6 months pregnant. The sheer thought of helplessness and hopelessness while she was sick makes me feel very sad. I feel very very guilty about not travelling to India( I was scared for myslef that I might get the virus if I travel) and try to help her get though the sickness. How do I deal with this guilt.? I just cry, cry and cry more thinking about all this. I never got to say her Good-Bye. One moment she was there(alive on ventilator though) and another moment she was just gone.<br/>My both parents are alive and it is so devastating for them to see this day when their beloved daughter is gone from this world. Being a elder brother I have a responsibility to take care of them. I have a responsibility to take take care of my sister's husband and their daughter too. But in all these responsibilities, my loss has been overshadowed. I know this might sound selfish but why a sibling loss is so underrated. I want to grieve too, cry, weep.<br/>I have found this forum online and am seeking help from people who have gone through a similar loss.<br/>Suggest me some support groups, some individuals whom I can talk to.</p> Grief Counseling Notestag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2021-03-06:2054931:Topic:4250022021-03-06T15:49:12.808ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
<p><span><strong>Grief Counseling includes</strong></span>:</p>
<ul>
<li>Private chat sessions </li>
<li>inspirational messages</li>
<li>workbook pages</li>
<li>all services provided by certified grief counselor</li>
</ul>
<p><a href="https://www.chordomafoundation.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Advice-and-Care-for-Caregivers.pdf" rel="noopener" target="_blank">Common reactions to grief and loss…</a></p>
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<p><span><strong>Grief Counseling includes</strong></span>:</p>
<ul>
<li>Private chat sessions </li>
<li>inspirational messages</li>
<li>workbook pages</li>
<li>all services provided by certified grief counselor</li>
</ul>
<p><a href="https://www.chordomafoundation.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Advice-and-Care-for-Caregivers.pdf" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Common reactions to grief and loss</a></p>
<p><a href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/stage-grief-youve-never-heard-of-but-may-be-stuck-in/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">why?</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/docs/Info-grief%20and%20bereavement.pdf" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Uncomplicated grief vs. complicated grief</a></p>
<p><b>Grief Counseling</b></p>
<p>Grief counseling is also sometimes referred to as bereavement counseling. It is typically used to counsel and comfort individuals who are dealing with loss, usually the death of a loved one. This type of counseling can help some people adjust and cope with loss and the grief that comes with it.</p>
<p>Grief counseling is recommended for individuals who are having trouble grieving, or moving through the different stages of grief, after a loss. Generally, most people who seek grief counseling do so because their grief is</p>
<ul>
<li>interfering with their daily activities</li>
<li>causing relationship problems</li>
<li>making it hard to go on with their own lives</li>
<li>causing intense guilt or depression</li>
<li>making it difficult to eat</li>
</ul>
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<p><b><i>Why Do We Need Grief Counseling?</i></b></p>
<p>A healthy grieving process is completely normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Everyone grieves differently and some may find it harder than others to cope with loss and grief. Living with the pain of unresolved loss and grief is a terrible thing for the human psyche. It can cause feelings of guilt, along with feelings of depression.</p>
<p>Grief counseling can help make the grieving process easier. The purpose of grief counseling is not to forget a loss but work toward acceptance. Individuals who are able to accept the loss of someone or something that they loved will typically find it much easier to move on and live happier lives themselves.</p>
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<p><b><i>What Does a Grief Counselor Do?</i></b></p>
<p>The main goal of a grief counselor is to help people cope with grief. These professionals might work with all types of people experiencing all different types of loss. Some grief counselors might focus on counseling individuals that lost loved ones in specific ways, such as after a battle with cancer or during military service.</p>
<p>A counseling method known as "active listening" is one of the most common types used by grief counselors. During this type of counseling, a grief counselor will usually do more listening than talking. The counselor will encourage or allow the grieving person to talk about their feelings and emotions. Many times, individuals suffering from grief might only need to get their feelings out in the open in order to move forward with their lives. On the other hand, a grief counselor might also need to help their clients <b>develop strategies and methods for coping with their loss</b>.</p>
<p>Grief counselors will also watch their clients closely for signs of mental or emotional problems that are often associated with grief. This might include such things as anger, depression, or even suicidal thoughts. </p> helptag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2020-10-10:2054931:Topic:3491742020-10-10T21:46:55.701ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
<p>I am having a very hard time after ,loosing my 31 year old daughter. I can't consentrate and can't stop crying...</p>
<p>I am having a very hard time after ,loosing my 31 year old daughter. I can't consentrate and can't stop crying...</p> When is it too long?tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2020-07-23:2054931:Topic:3388702020-07-23T07:28:24.140ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
<p>December 2019 I lost an important special friend. Someone I felt was a kindred spirit. I felt like I was supposed to know him in my life. I had met him in 2011. We had stayed friends throughout the years. Somehow I had let him in to the warmest place I could find in my heart. I allowed him access to the corners of my mind and the sights of me that I would never allow most. He got me through some rough times and I got him through a few. </p>
<p>Well... He had gotten into an accident at work…</p>
<p>December 2019 I lost an important special friend. Someone I felt was a kindred spirit. I felt like I was supposed to know him in my life. I had met him in 2011. We had stayed friends throughout the years. Somehow I had let him in to the warmest place I could find in my heart. I allowed him access to the corners of my mind and the sights of me that I would never allow most. He got me through some rough times and I got him through a few. </p>
<p>Well... He had gotten into an accident at work again... the injuries this time around were very severe. His depression started to flood in. I talked to him almost everyday trying to keep his mind from sliding into the darkness. The year of operations, absence of his loved ones, and hospital rounds took their toll on him. He was told he would not be returning to the job he loved. Injuries were permanent. He thanked me for keeping him sane for so long. Then he went silent.</p>
<p>I was worried so, I go to check on him one day... the phone was given back to work. His sister replied with an email. It heavily insinuated him leaving this world by taking his own life. I broke apart. I fell apart at work and home. Anywhere. Everywhere. To songs. To voicemails. To old emails. To text messages. To memories. To wishes. To unmet aspirations. Visited an old friends grave and dropped to my knees in the rain to gut wretch the tears out of my entire being. I could almost feel my organs squeeze the life out of me so that the tears could spill out of my eyes. Greif attacks were everywhere. I hid them the best I could. I could never hide the redness under my eyes made by the tears that slipped out of them. </p>
<p>I found books on bereavement and I looked up research on specific suicide loss. I tried doing things to bring myself calmness. To get me through it. I tried talking to him out loud but I'd stop mid sentence and the silence gripped me. </p>
<p>Then corona came into life... and a job lay off... the losses were mounting. My old life was dying. I needed to let all of it go... all of it. It overwhelmed me... </p>
<p>I suddenly had a lot of time to grieve. To face it head on. There was nothing to stall it. Nothing to ease it away. No work to divert my attention from it.</p>
<p>For months I was writing in a journal, electronic notes, on scraps of paper, to his personal email because no one would read it... so I could vent there. This month I got an email replying to me from his work email... it was a letter trying to bring me peace... but it broke me more. It said, it was set to send out at a later date... to say goodbye... it was meant to give me closure but my mind would not grasp it. I wretched and locked myself in my room for days after reading it. Face in my pillow to muffle the whimpers. Curled like a ball... grasping my pillow... hiding from everyone... holding on to the slightest bit of sanity inside of my head. Forcing the conspiracy theories of unacceptance out of my mind as it fights to force me to see that this is not true. I dont fight back... but I hug me... and I just repeat, "it will be ok". Even as my head hears those words, it comes up with another story.. and again, I tell myself, "it will be ok" like I'm telling my mind to come with me to the place where we accept this death as truth. I'm hard headed.</p>
<p>I am riddled with guilt and pain. Depression holds on to me and somedays I function only because I mentally drag myself to physically do so because I know its good for me. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just selfish because I'm not ready to let him go. Like that's where I get to see or feel him even if its just in my pain. I believe in energy transfer when we die... I do. Something about this one though... it haunts me. Like, I'm needing to see this. </p>
<p>The grief attacks... those have slowed down. But now, its replaced with this "deadness". It's not empty and its not full... its stagnate. I could float through it like it was air. I can't tell if its stifling or clearing. </p>
<p>So... a while back I realized how much he meant to me... in order to process through it, I started writing a story about us. It is my hope that by the end of the story, I will have found my closure and I will have a story of my life with him existing somewhere in it. </p>
<p>The research tells me, I am needing counseling. The tests are showing an abnormal amount of oddities that show need for concern. All the while I think this is normal... and now I'm seeing it is not. Its become a tragic event in my life. One I will need to get through, no matter how slow I get through it. </p>
<p>I found this group forum because I know I need it. Yet, I don't even know what to do with it. </p>
<p>So... how long is too long? </p> im not metag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2017-06-10:2054931:Topic:3072482017-06-10T23:20:20.017ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
<p>im not me</p>
<p>i will not be me </p>
<p>wear am i</p>
<p>wear did i go </p>
<p>so mush loos</p>
<p>so mush bad shit</p>
<p>its got me so </p>
<p>not me</p>
<p>she died 2 in 2912 she did </p>
<p>im not me</p>
<p>i will not be me </p>
<p>wear am i</p>
<p>wear did i go </p>
<p>so mush loos</p>
<p>so mush bad shit</p>
<p>its got me so </p>
<p>not me</p>
<p>she died 2 in 2912 she did </p> I Don't Know How to Get Through Thistag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-10-10:2054931:Topic:2903262016-10-10T00:53:03.614ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
My husband, my Knight in shining armor, had a massive stroke 4 years ago. My sweet, gentle, patient husband became unpredictable, verbally abusive and dangerous to be around. In one of his more lucid moments, we made the difficult decision to separate. We have 3 kids and the things he would say to them when he was out of control would tear him apart afterwards. After separating, his health continued to decline and several times we were told it was only a matter of months before we lost him. It…
My husband, my Knight in shining armor, had a massive stroke 4 years ago. My sweet, gentle, patient husband became unpredictable, verbally abusive and dangerous to be around. In one of his more lucid moments, we made the difficult decision to separate. We have 3 kids and the things he would say to them when he was out of control would tear him apart afterwards. After separating, his health continued to decline and several times we were told it was only a matter of months before we lost him. It was so painful and I stopped seeing him although I would talk to him on the phone periodically. Yesterday he had another massive stroke and is in the ICU on a ventilator. He has very little time left and will never be responsive again. We are actually losing him this time. It all feels so fresh, the pain is just as deep if not deeper than when we lost the person that he was before the first stroke. So much sadness but intertwined with guilt. Guilt that I couldn't be there for him more. Guilt that there is some relief that he'll be at peace. Guilt that I'm glad our kids will no longer have to live with wondering when he's going to go. Loss of Husbandtag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-05-19:2054931:Topic:2795672016-05-19T20:39:23.430ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
<p>My Husband has been gone for four months and I'm feeling the loss now more than ever. He was my partner in everything. I started Volunteering at a local Hospital and today I saw several older couples helping each other, holding hands, just taking care of each other. I started crying. I always thought that would be our senior years. I can't believe this will get easier. Please tell me how to deal with this.</p>
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<p>My Husband has been gone for four months and I'm feeling the loss now more than ever. He was my partner in everything. I started Volunteering at a local Hospital and today I saw several older couples helping each other, holding hands, just taking care of each other. I started crying. I always thought that would be our senior years. I can't believe this will get easier. Please tell me how to deal with this.</p>
<p></p> So Many Lossestag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-02-25:2054931:Topic:2707732016-02-25T08:09:12.451ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
Hi my name is Laurie In MaY of 2011 One of my cousins who I grew up around passed and 6mths later my daddy passed a year and 3 mths later my Aunt who was my world passed in the summer of 2012 another cousin passed of pneumonia, this last March my step mom lost her battle with brain cancer, in April my mama had a massive heart attack in June my 26 year old neice took her life So I'm dealing with a lot of loss of people very close to me and on top of these losses I've delt with two divorces and…
Hi my name is Laurie In MaY of 2011 One of my cousins who I grew up around passed and 6mths later my daddy passed a year and 3 mths later my Aunt who was my world passed in the summer of 2012 another cousin passed of pneumonia, this last March my step mom lost her battle with brain cancer, in April my mama had a massive heart attack in June my 26 year old neice took her life So I'm dealing with a lot of loss of people very close to me and on top of these losses I've delt with two divorces and very recently having to put my dog that I had for seven years to sleep and my cousin stealing my other dog so I'm reaching out i need advice please Lost my 30 year old wife of 6 years in a car accidenttag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-01-30:2054931:Topic:2676682016-01-30T05:17:25.211ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
<p>I tried to be strong. It happened 6 weeks back and just a couple of days i was strong enough to dedicate this blog to her</p>
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<p><a href="https://mylovemywifeblog.wordpress.com/">https://mylovemywifeblog.wordpress.com/</a></p>
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<p>But its getting increasingly difficult for me.</p>
<p>I tried to be strong. It happened 6 weeks back and just a couple of days i was strong enough to dedicate this blog to her</p>
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<p><a href="https://mylovemywifeblog.wordpress.com/">https://mylovemywifeblog.wordpress.com/</a></p>
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<p>But its getting increasingly difficult for me.</p> why metag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2016-01-29:2054931:Topic:2670102016-01-29T23:30:28.084ZLisa Maria DeMatto- Wysonghttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/LisaWysong
<p>why me?????????</p>
<p>why me god??????</p>
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<p>why me?????????</p>
<p>why me god??????</p>
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