Online Grief Support - A Social Community2024-03-28T22:38:46ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maiahttp://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/2767216030?profile=original&width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/forum/topic/listForContributor?groupUrl=being-the-other-woman-other-man&user=0vb1ls7xp22e8&feed=yes&xn_auth=noOther Woman for close to 2 years ended badlytag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2022-07-19:2054931:Topic:4376242022-07-19T10:23:19.563ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
My story is rather long. I will shorten it to say that how I got myself into this situation was simply via one message to an old friend on social media kinda like a hey what have you been up to for so many years. From there, it turned to daily messages, then to texts, then face-time then to in person last spring. I separated he was unhappy in his marriage. He lives a pretty far distance away so it was a long distance emotional and physical affair. He became my best friend. Know one ever saw…
My story is rather long. I will shorten it to say that how I got myself into this situation was simply via one message to an old friend on social media kinda like a hey what have you been up to for so many years. From there, it turned to daily messages, then to texts, then face-time then to in person last spring. I separated he was unhappy in his marriage. He lives a pretty far distance away so it was a long distance emotional and physical affair. He became my best friend. Know one ever saw right through to the heart of me like he did. Then come late 2021 the wife found out. He left it that he need to figure things out. However... what he really did was throw me under the bus and blocked me everywhere. My heart has been completely broken ever since. The pain is like know other. In my mind this was my soulmate. At least I was 95% sure. There has been contact since then but only initiated by me. Last time we spoke for 2 hours was end of April. He could not tell me during that convo that he does not love me. Yet he stays in a marriage with zero kids for security he fears change. I have not smiled fully since his last I love you too in late 2021... just before Thanksgiving. Devastating situation. So Blessed!tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2022-03-07:2054931:Topic:4358402022-03-07T16:30:12.139ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
<p>I lost my soulmate, the man I should have met years to a long battle with COVID pneumonia. He was married, but his wife took their then 12 year old daughter and moved across the state line 2 months before we met, 14 months ago. After realizing we were meant for each other we decided to keep our relationship from his wife for the sake of his daughter until she was older and could accept the change. Everything was fine until he texted and told me his COVID was getting worse and he was going to…</p>
<p>I lost my soulmate, the man I should have met years to a long battle with COVID pneumonia. He was married, but his wife took their then 12 year old daughter and moved across the state line 2 months before we met, 14 months ago. After realizing we were meant for each other we decided to keep our relationship from his wife for the sake of his daughter until she was older and could accept the change. Everything was fine until he texted and told me his COVID was getting worse and he was going to the hospital. While in the hospital he texted and told me not to contact him anymore because his wife was in the picture and using his phone. He assured me she knew nothing about us and knowing her and checking her FaceBook page if she knew....EVERYONE would know. We had a few mutual friends who I knew would keep me in the loop, but I wanted to come clean with his siblings. He never told them about us because he was afraid of their reaction. I googled his brother's name and found a phone number online and called his brother asking about him. He was so sweet and accepting and said he would keep our secret. He mentioned he and their sister saw a change in him, but couldn't figure it out until I called him. He then called their sister who called me the next morning willing to chat. His sister and I developed a beautiful friendship the past 6 weeks and she even encouraged me to call his nurses' station while he was in the hospital. The nurse was very nice and offered to allow me to FaceTime him which was wonderful because I could talk to him and tell him it's ok to go if the Lord calls him Home.... that was a week and a half before he passed. The services are later this week and his siblings want me to come...we are all staying at the same hotel. I'm just praying we can pull off the viewing and funeral without the wifey finding out about us. A mutual male friend, the one who interduce us, will be going with me. I just feel so blessed I can openly mourn and have the family's support unlike so many of you. I pray for the Lord's strength to see you through your loss.</p> My married lovertag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2022-03-07:2054931:Topic:4355802022-03-07T15:56:40.106ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
For 6 years I secretly shared a wonderful love with a man who was a beautiful soul. His other life found out about me days before he passed. His family has asked that I not attend the service. I called the funeral home to see if they would arrange some sort of private viewing, but was informed that he'd already been cremated. This grief is overwhelming.
For 6 years I secretly shared a wonderful love with a man who was a beautiful soul. His other life found out about me days before he passed. His family has asked that I not attend the service. I called the funeral home to see if they would arrange some sort of private viewing, but was informed that he'd already been cremated. This grief is overwhelming. Lost my Partner who wasn't my partnertag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2022-02-25:2054931:Topic:4358122022-02-25T20:09:47.544ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
<p>I'd like to start by saying that I can't believe I found an outlet with people who've suffered similar experiences. It's comforting to know that while I may be an exception to the rule of "disenfrancised grief" that you exist. </p>
<p>Morally, it's difficult to put into words, onto a keyboard how I feel about my loss.</p>
<p>The romantic in me is heartbroken</p>
<p>The pragmatic in me is trudging along</p>
<p>I'm married with no children. I love my husband and we have a great relationship.…</p>
<p>I'd like to start by saying that I can't believe I found an outlet with people who've suffered similar experiences. It's comforting to know that while I may be an exception to the rule of "disenfrancised grief" that you exist. </p>
<p>Morally, it's difficult to put into words, onto a keyboard how I feel about my loss.</p>
<p>The romantic in me is heartbroken</p>
<p>The pragmatic in me is trudging along</p>
<p>I'm married with no children. I love my husband and we have a great relationship. We are more like sibling/friends who've nourished each other for 22 years. </p>
<p>My "partner who is not my partner" was also married. 2 teenage boys & a wife that didn't show much affection (isn't that always the story)</p>
<p>We had been together 13 years. We chatted daily on the phone. We texted an absurd amount of time (I was shocked looking at my cell bill). We began a casual relationship to fill the gaps in our marriage & of course we progressed to leading almost double lives. </p>
<p>He passed suddenly of a heart attack last month. Being the other woman, I found out only by instinct, curiosity & google as a result of an unanswered text. </p>
<p>There is one friend who I've confided in for years and she has been my rock through this loss. </p>
<p>I don't want to shout off mountain tops. I don't want to let his wife know. I can't let my husband see me cry. I've no liberty to mourn. I've no freedom to take time away from work. I'm strong and coping. I'm not medicated. I'm not seeing a therapist. </p>
<p>I am reading and re-reading email and all social media to the point where I have to pull back as it was not helping. The wife is now posting photos of him, starting go fund me (she works from home) & is financially broken. If she knew he had a first edition of a popular book, she could sell it and live well for a few months (I gave it to him as a gift) but I can't dare tell her or think of creative ways to connect without revealing myself.</p>
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<p>Finding moments to cry are few and far between but I'm trying to feel it all.</p>
<p>There is little reading one can find on how to cope as the unknown other woman. </p>
<p>I was blessed to attend a streaming version of the funeral but it wasn't closure for me as I have so many questions on the "how" and the "where" and "when"; like I could have helped save him. He passed on a Monday evening; we spoke and texted at 4pm & 9pm.</p>
<p>He wanted to remain the best father to his kids, upstanding dad to his friends & family & business partner to his wife. He left this world being the vision of the love of her life & it kills me to know the story isn't all sunshine & roses. I shall respect him & allow them to see the facade he wanted to build but it's hurting inside to know that I am missing him in ways she never will.</p>
<p>Reading your posts is assuring and I know I will get through it but I miss him so damn much. It's been a month and I've got no oomph. No sympathy. No motivation.</p>
<p>Just heartache of never being able to kiss him again.</p>
<p>Any feedback on how to cope is welcomed. </p>
<p>Thank you for taking the time to read about some of my current experience.</p>
<p>R</p> Losing my one true lovetag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2021-12-21:2054931:Topic:4335052021-12-21T18:36:12.756ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
<p>Hi, Im new here and have no one to share my story with. My story in a nutshell: I met Bob in 1986. Although he was married, we were very much in love. Life's circumstances changed and in a flash he was gone (alive, just moved). I found him 25 years later and we found our love was still there. We met up and the feelings were undeniable. Except he was in a new long term relationship with children. We stayed in touch via phone and texts, last talking this past October. I texted him a couple…</p>
<p>Hi, Im new here and have no one to share my story with. My story in a nutshell: I met Bob in 1986. Although he was married, we were very much in love. Life's circumstances changed and in a flash he was gone (alive, just moved). I found him 25 years later and we found our love was still there. We met up and the feelings were undeniable. Except he was in a new long term relationship with children. We stayed in touch via phone and texts, last talking this past October. I texted him a couple of days ago but he didn't respond (not like him). So, I called but got a recording that the number was no longer in service. I found that odd. I googled his name as I couldn't remember the name of the place he worked. What popped up horrified me. An obituary. Couldn't be, I thought. I just talked to him and he was fine. But as I read on, the location was right, the birthday was right. I started crying out "no, no, no, no" but as I read on, the place he worked was right as were the names of the family he was survived by. I continued crying out "no, no, no" and tried calling again, only to get the same message. He had died of Covid four weeks after we last spoke. His last words to me were, "I still miss you." Since our relationship was not a public one, not many people in my life today were aware of him. So, I'm left here grieving all alone. I so want to scream out to the world, "He loved me best!" but I can't. I can't hurt his family. Silent grief...and my heart is broken. Thanks for listening.</p> zoom groups??tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2021-05-28:2054931:Topic:4290722021-05-28T08:13:30.650ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
<p>Hi, are there any zoom meeting for this specific group? If so, when? Anyone in South Florida?</p>
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<p>Thank you,</p>
<p>Lizzie</p>
<p>Hi, are there any zoom meeting for this specific group? If so, when? Anyone in South Florida?</p>
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<p>Thank you,</p>
<p>Lizzie</p> zoom groups??tag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2021-05-28:2054931:Topic:4289902021-05-28T08:13:26.247ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
<p>Hi, are there any zoom meeting for this specific group? If so, when? Anyone in South Florida?</p>
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<p>Thank you,</p>
<p>Lizzie</p>
<p>Hi, are there any zoom meeting for this specific group? If so, when? Anyone in South Florida?</p>
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<p>Thank you,</p>
<p>Lizzie</p> I want to scream that I loved him and he loved metag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2021-04-01:2054931:Topic:4257702021-04-01T20:26:45.306ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
His name was Russell. I am Kelly. Russell and Kelly. I can say that here.
His name was Russell. I am Kelly. Russell and Kelly. I can say that here. I'm grateful I found this grouptag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2020-10-12:2054931:Topic:3501662020-10-12T18:51:48.744ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
<p>I have been struggling completely alone for nearly 2 years. I felt like there HAD to be others in my position out there but I had no way to find out. I finally found a shrink who told me the term disenfranchised grief. And told me about this site. I feel hope for the first time in nearly 2 years. I have been so completely and utterly alone and have had NO way to work through my grief other than bottling it up.</p>
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<p>We are/were both married to other people, literally no one…</p>
<p>I have been struggling completely alone for nearly 2 years. I felt like there HAD to be others in my position out there but I had no way to find out. I finally found a shrink who told me the term disenfranchised grief. And told me about this site. I feel hope for the first time in nearly 2 years. I have been so completely and utterly alone and have had NO way to work through my grief other than bottling it up.</p>
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<p>We are/were both married to other people, literally no one knew/knows. It's been nearly 2 years and I'm as devastated as day one. I've attempted suicide twice in this time. I just....I can't see a way to live without him. I feel like my soul, spirit and life have left me with him and I have no will to go on. I miss him so much every day. Every. Single. Day. </p> Strugglingtag:www.onlinegriefsupport.com,2019-10-24:2054931:Topic:3358132019-10-24T12:25:43.012ZMaiahttp://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/profile/Maia
<p>I was in a relationship with a man who had a long term girlfriend of 17 years. This past weekend he committed suicide. I am struggling and trying to process this as well as keep my family life normal at the same time. I am married and my husband and I have a 5 year old.</p>
<p>I am destroyed and devastated and I am so worried I wont be able to move forward. I am seeing a therapist. I hope there is someone out there who has suggestions or guidance on this. I am in a very dark place…</p>
<p>I was in a relationship with a man who had a long term girlfriend of 17 years. This past weekend he committed suicide. I am struggling and trying to process this as well as keep my family life normal at the same time. I am married and my husband and I have a 5 year old.</p>
<p>I am destroyed and devastated and I am so worried I wont be able to move forward. I am seeing a therapist. I hope there is someone out there who has suggestions or guidance on this. I am in a very dark place right now.</p>